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He likes to be in control. Ignore him; it will drive him absoloutely crazy.

hmm interesting! i don’t really want to ignore him…i hate playing games like that, i feel like they backfire and are dishonest

Yet he’s playing them with you…

I would ask if you actually want to be with someone that plays games full stop though

doesn’t sound like it’s worth your time. i like a guy who is INTERESTED, not a guy who is “meh”.

i mean, think about it. when you first started flirting with each other, he probably responded to every text you sent with something witty and flirtaceous and suave. when you looked his way he probably caught your eye and winked. now that he’s got you in the bag it seems like his effort and attention has waned.

SlightlyUnique wrote:
Yet he’s playing them with you…

I would ask if you actually want to be with someone that plays games full stop though

I agree. Not worth your time! Tell him no more games, and if he doesnt stop, he doesnt really care about you, he just likes the attention.

you really think these are games? not that he might just not be an avid texter/maybe he’s busy?

he’ll ignore you in person too. so you said.

Anonymous wrote:
you really think these are games? not that he might just not be an avid texter/maybe he’s busy?

Read the post! He compliments her to seem like hes interested (which keeps HER interested & complimenting him), then ignores her while he talks to other girls! My ex boyfriends NEVER talked to other girls when we went out & excluded me from the conversation. What kind of crappy boyfriend does that???
He seems to believe that HES allowed to ignore texts & not return calls - but if SHE does, he makes her believe shes in the wrong.

it’s not that he ignores me when he’s talking to other girls, he’s just very social and outgoing. that’s not the part that really bothers me, it’s more the not hearing back from him when i send him a text sometimes. i don’t know how to bring it up and not feel like i’m being silly or high maintenance. he said he wants me to move in with him.. ugh i just don’t know

uh. he’s been dating you for a month and he wants you to move in with him?

yeah, I have to move out of my place soon and i haven’t found another place yet, so he asked me to move in…

Anonymous wrote:
yeah, I have to move out of my place soon and i haven’t found another place yet, so he asked me to move in…

Hes as needy as my username. He needs and loves female attention and how perfect for him to have a full-time attention & compliment giver living with him.

Im sorry to have to say this but this really doesnt sound like love to me. It took me a long time to figure out what love is, and when you text or call you should be priority number one, Queen Anonymous needs to talk! That is not high maintenance, thats normal. Why spend your life with anyone who thinks less of you than a queen? This is not an equal partnership - he knows youre a safe bet and thats why he keeps you around.

he just texted me saying he missed me. i don’t know, i don’t think he’s as bad as you’re thinking!

But its all about him, dont you see? He doesnt text things like: hey honey, how are you? or hope youre having a good day!
He texts about *himself* and how *he* feels.

thats true…and that means he’s not that into me?

He does like you, but seems naturally to be a selfish person. I dont think youll ever get what you truly need in a relationship from this guy. Even if you move in, hes going to make sure to continue taking advantage of your sweet nature and keep you chasing him because it reassures his insecurity. Just be careful. And I really, really, really dont suggest moving in. Anytime he finds someone he likes more, you will be homeless.

Im not trying to break you two up, its very early in the relationship. Tell him what you told us in your post and replies, and see how he reacts. If he responds with a lot of *me* statements, he will never learn and wont ever care enough to learn.