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Stop relying on people and things in the world to make you happy. See, as long as you need people, and things, and for stuff to go right in your life, you’ll never find true joy. You might be happy for a short while, but then it’s back to the boring, the sadness, and the hopelessness. But if your joy comes from the Lord, then it’s a constant, ever-present happiness. Because if things in the world aren’t what gave you happiness in the first place, then things in the world can’t take away that happiness either.

sounds like a horribly rough patch. I cant immagine you will feel this way forever though. Sometimes people get caught up in the crazyness that is life. its not that your friends have abandoned you at least I hope not. but feeling alone can truely and completely suck. I guess the best I can say is this is but a moment in life and while it sucks right now, it will pass. try to have some fun with the free time, maybe catch up on a good book, or a relaxing bubble bath. sometimes down time is a good time to de stress a little.

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Oh Trent I’m sorry you are feeling like this today! It sucks and I totaly understand where you are coming from!

I really wish we lived close because I totaly would hang out with you…I would even take care of you when you go out and you get all spunky drunk! lol.

You have a great perspective of life and I see it on here when you reply to people. You actually do really good with helping others in a straight up way! I like that about you!

What I’m thinking is you really need to get a job get out and do something you enjoy. Even if you are volunteering your time somewhere. I know you love animals maybe try like one of the shelters for animals in your area!

You really have alot to offer but you are not out there where you will meet people who have the same likes that you do by sitting home or going to school!

Why don’t you think about this I seriously think it is a great idea! You will enjoy getting a paycheck to treat yourself to things that you like and want! Your to good of a person to be sitting home all the time and wishing you had someone to hang out with!

I to have days where I feel like everything is great and then for no reason I feel like everything is such a mess. I don’t stay there long but it does happen to me as well!

If you have the energy to ware yourself out thinking all the time then will diffenantly have the energy to go get a part time job.

If you work some where that you enjoy you will meet people their that like the same things you do and can start making friends.

Trust me Trent there are people out there looking for friends but your not going to find them at home! Period!

You need to get out of the house. When you get back from Holiday you should start looking!

Get a job make some money and save it for a ticket to come visit me in the States. You will have a room to stay in and I will buy you a Beer! lol I’m actually being serious! You would love it here and you could make it a goal something to get you motivated to work and save.

What do you think about that?

I hope my spelling is ok here cause the sun is on my screen and I’m just sitting here pecking away on the key board! So here goes…send!

Try getting a good nights sleep, and see if you feel the same way in the morning. If nothing changes, give it a week. You should feel much better by then, as long as you don’t sink yourself down. Try to be positive, if you can.
If you still feel bad after a few months, I would seek help from loved ones such as medication or a therapist.

Time is the best healer, but you are the thing keeping yourself together.

Actually while I’m typing this I’m sitting here with 4 other girls they are all my oldest daughters friends. One of the girls here is from South East London “Brockly” she flew out for the summer while out of school and works at a Hotel here. Her flight which was bought ahead of time was under $1,000.00 $890.00 to be excat. So it depends of when you buy it.

Just for your information deary! lol If I hit a decent size lottery ticket I will buy the ticket! lol

What part of the area do you live in? Shanai asked because I just asked her to tell you!

She said she doesn’t know where trent is so must not be close to her.

Ya I will diffenantly get you a ticket…lol And drinks on the house!

That would be Awesome……I can’t wait for you to go enjoy your Holiday then when you get back I hope school all works out and you will have the opportunity to meet some good people!

You are just in a dry spell right now and only when you start to get yourself out there will you meet some friends!

I go out by myself often but I just go to local places where people know me…..I shot pool play the jute box and meet alot of nice people! I feel safe where I go because I have established myself there.

Maybe you could find a nice cool chill out place close to where you live that you could go in early get to know the bartenders and waitress’s so on. So if you decide to go on an evening you won’t feel awkward idk just an idea.

When I was your age I probably wouldn’t think of this but I do it now and it is nice. I can do what I want go where I want and I meet so many nice people from all over that I will talk with.

Anyways I think after your Holiday you get back and settled things are going to change for you! For the good…..I can feel it!

Blest wrote:
Stop relying on people and things in the world to make you happy. See, as long as you need people, and things, and for stuff to go right in your life, you’ll never find true joy. You might be happy for a short while, but then it’s back to the boring, the sadness, and the hopelessness. But if your joy comes from the Lord, then it’s a constant, ever-present happiness. Because if things in the world aren’t what gave you happiness in the first place, then things in the world can’t take away that happiness either.

I kinda agree with that. I can think of a lot of times in the past that when I’m most happy I’m actually by myself, but then there are times I’m really happy when I’m with others or at least knowing that there’s some true friend(s) I can call on when I need them. I don’t need to hang out or see them everyday but in the back of my mind, I know they are there and I appreciate that.

A friend once told me that happiness lies in contentment, though I find it difficult in practice, it’s true. I think being happy is also a decision, in that you are determined not to let things get you down and you’ll get yourself up to do the things that need to be done or that’ll make you happy. Once you take good care of yourself and love yourself, good things will naturally follow cuz that love within you will radiate out and affect people in a very good way.

Just my 2 cents.

Positivity keeps us afloat - negativity sinks the boat!

Lol, keep smiling sweetie. Things always change, always look different with each new day.

You helped me and your very valuable as a person. I value as a friend I’m sure of it. This too will pass. I’ve been there before too and I was so blinded, my sight so clouded, that I couldn’t see for looking. I got saved and the holy spirit unlocked the potential in my mind. I became confident, outgoing, pleasant, a magnet even. Maybe you can try it and watch what happens.

Anonymous wrote:
You helped me and your very valuable as a person. I value as a friend I’m sure of it. This too will pass. I’ve been there before too and I was so blinded, my sight so clouded, that I couldn’t see for looking. I got saved and the holy spirit unlocked the potential in my mind. I became confident, outgoing, pleasant, a magnet even. Maybe you can try it and watch what happens.

What changed it all for you?

I’m sorry to respond so late but I just now saw this. What changed it for me? Hmm. I’m not really too sure because it was a lot of things. Maybe the most significant to me is when I dropped baggage in my life that I didn’t accept or enjoy or have a clear convience about. After that I seemed to instantly get a clear mind, the best of me shined thru, and I give the glory to God for telling me what I’m doing wrong and where to do right and if I follow I do well.