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My gf’s stress is getting the best of our relationship.

Over the past week, we’ve done nothing but bicker. I’ve been the one initiating the arguments (in search of an apology) because she’s been making extremely snarky remarks, attacking me.

I’m a very reasonable boyfriend, and caring. I’m always trying to get her into a good mood, but lately her negativity has taken a toll on me turning me into a stress-bot too.

What do I do? Do I just keep pointing out the fact that she’s attacking me and being snarly, and hope she stops? I can’t stand the mini arguments and feeling of hostility… HELP please

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Anonymous #
10 months, 3 weeks ago (57 minutes after post)

her outbursts may be trying to tell you something and wish you away without actually saying it to you

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The Sherlockian offline Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 24 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 21 minutes after post)

Tell your finace that men do not want to kiss the mouth that has been chewing on their butts all day. If she doesn’t get the message, find another fiance!

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The Sherlockian offline Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 24 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 21 minutes after post)

Or girlfriend, rather! And fiance, not finace!

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Dr. Ozy offline Verified User (6 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (6 hours, 19 minutes after post)

talk plainly to her. when she says something rude or disrespectful, call her out on it. don’t wait and then try to pester her about it later. tell her right then and there that her rudeness is uncalled for and that you don’t treat her that way. tell her that her demeaning attitude is making her unpleasant to be around and if she has something to accuse you of or rant to you about just say it. but passive-aggressively insulting you is disrespectful and next time she’s in such a terrible mood, she should keep it to herself.

how long have you been together? do you live together?

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