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Ive been with this guy for like four years, we have kids together.
Our relationship has been a roller coaster. On and off for the past four years. Well last week, I got off of work late. It was a Saturday night, and I don’t have tail lights, police were out. Well a girl I went to high school with was at a bachelor-ette party at the bar I work at. She offered me to go hang out at her pad til things calmed down in town so I could go home. She also invited the band that was playing to the party.
Her house was maybe two blocks away from the bar. I hung out for maybe an hour. Just hanging out, not getting to the point of hooking up with any guys I didn’t even have a drink. When I noticed my phone had been ringing the whole time. (it was loud at her house) I answered my phone and found out my ex was wandering the streets looking for me. He was yelling at me to find out where I was I went walking the streets and we found each other. He was yelling at me on the street to show him the house I was at. When I took him all of the guys were outside. He asked for the girl I was with, and the guys didn’t know her name. So he got pissed and stormed off. I followed him, and he was saying things like he was going to commit suicide. I kept trying to talk to him, but he wouldn’t listen. I wasn’t doing anything there, nor did I intend to. He took off running, and I walked alone in the dark to my car. When I got there there was a guy waiting for me. He told me that my ex was walking around my car for an hour, he asked my ex why he was. He said he didn’t want to be with me or anything he just wanted to know why I wasn’t home with the kids. Just then my ex called, he was acting like he did something to kill himself, and it was my fault. He kept saying are you proud of yourself!?!?
He does this kind of thing often, so finally I yelled at him and said, I am proud, because for months I have been with no one waiting for you to come around. You dated, and lied to me telling me you couldn’t stand life with out me. So yea I am proud because I showed what is important to me. Then he stopped. He told me he can’t be with me because he is a liar, that he just broke up with another girl that I didn’t know about. That he has tons of girls that he gets to fall in love with him, but he doesn’t care about them. He doesn’t care about me, or our children. He can’t stop and that’s why he’s refused counseling.
I know he loves our children. I know he loves me, I know this because he shows it. He is there for us when we need him, even when things are bad between us.
However after that phone call he changed his number. I don’t know weather I should go through other channels to try to talk to him. Or just let him be. I mean was what I did really so bad that he’d forsake his kids. I mean forget about me, I love him but if things aren’t going to work then I have no choice in the matter. Does it sound like some thing he’s doing to really pull away or to get me to do more than my share in this again. I don’t know. Help would be more than appreciated. Plus what about our children? They know and love him, he can’t just be forgotten because I went to a house party after work. Is this really all my fault?
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