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Honestly, do you even deserve your boyfriend if you cheated on him?
Do you truly respect the relationship enough to be apart of it?

it’s alright to want to but feel good you didn’t

I understand that you don’t want to hurt your boyfriend, but the damage is already done because it’s hurting you inside insofar as you cannot continue living with the guilt. You really need to sit down with him, look him in the eye, and tell him the full unvarnished truth about what happened. Otherwise your guilt is going to eat away at you. Relationships are built upon trust, honesty, and faithfulness. Think of them as three pillars. Take away any one of those pillars and the whole thing comes crashing down.

i dont know. Probably not and I really love him. I can hardly remember what happened ,but to blame the alcohol still does’nt mean it didn’t happen. I really wish it didn’t.
And I dont even think that I can console myself that I didnt let it go that far,since I never thought I’d ever cheat. Not a little, not a thought of it, nothing.
Windmills how would u do it? Im just so afraid, but I do feel like i don’t deserve him anymore. This was the biggest mistake I’ve ever made.

Why on earth would you want to not feel guilty ?

It is a perfectly healthy response to the situation……………..:)

Have you ever heard of the saying, “a guilty conscience needs no accuser”? That’s what is going on here, I believe.

Honestly, I have never been in a situation like this so I can only advise you how I would go about doing it while imagining myself in your position. Pull him aside when he’s not busy doing anything. Let him know that you have something very important to tell him so that he can hopefully brace himself for what you’re about say. Then there comes the hardest part - actually telling him that you cheated. Just make sure you tell him everything. Don’t leave anything out because, as much as it’s going to hit him like a ton of bricks, it’s something that you need to get off your conscience. Also, be sure that you’re prepared for a negative reaction - such as him storming out of the room and feeling an emotional wreck. That is when you need to step back and give him space.

Oh, and one last piece of advice, do not wait too long to come clean. The more time that passes the more trouble you’ll have convincing him that you’re regretful about what happened and want to make amends. The sooner the better.