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She compares everyone to me, but hates me?
I wouldn’t even say we “officially” dated. It was just a fling that had really strong feelings involved. She left me for her ex and said we would never work because of where our lives were going. Even after that we would have an occasional conversation, one where she literally said “no one ever compares to you”. The only kicker is that we work together and have to see each other often.
After she ended things with her ex she went on a date with another guy, but started talking to me right afterwards. She became upset when she found out I removed her on facebook and took the needed steps to cut her out of my life completely. So she retaliated and did the same to me. A few months later I heard she had gotten a new boyfriend. At the same time, she began reversing everything she did to cut me out of her life, and started talking to me again. I kept my distance, despite still having strong feelings for her, because I didn’t trust it.
Her new boyfriend cheated on her, and the break up followed. She heard some rumors (that weren’t true) from mutual friends that caused her to stop talking to me again too. Soon after, she started to date her ex (the first one) again. A little time went by and I finally confronted her about it and she told me she felt she couldn’t trust me. We talked for a bit and I soothed the waters. We started talking again, and things were a lot more friendly. Then, overnight, she began treating as me like she did when she cut me out of her life completely (won’t even say hello back).
What is her deal? I’d just let it go but I have to work with her directly and these mood swings are really getting old. It seems like I’m some nagging feeling in her heart she doesn’t want to feel. Yet she seems to want me back in her life every time she finds someone new, as if she’s comparing everyone to me.
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