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Am I being too bitter?

My sister has her boyfriend come over every day and makes him feel like he’s one of the family. For example the other day he was coming over and she didn’t tell me, we were watching a movie and I was in like my pajamas and with my hair all messy and all, and she might be comfortable with him seeing her like that but I’m not! And I never have my boyfriend come over every day, practically ALL day… they also make out a lot, not in front of me, but sometimes in the next room or wherever and I can hear them. I know its just them “showing their love” for each other and I’m not anti-love but sometimes I’m studying or working and they’re making out in the living room, why can’t they go to her room at the very least? And I mean I like him and all but having him all day, every day hanging out here, calling themselves with baby names, baby talking, making out or even discussing their problems in front of me, I mean, it’s THEIR relationship, do those things in private don’t include me! And our place is really small so yeah, I just needed to get this out my chest, ’cause he’s here again and they’re making out AGAIN…

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9 months, 3 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

No, you are not being bitter — you share your house and she needs to be considerate of your needs.

I would take her aside and check in with her — let her know that you like her boyfriend and are very happy for her and about the relationship, but their time spent in the house sometimes affects your ability to get stuff done. Maybe pick one incident and let her know how it affected you or made you feel. Ask if she would be willing to come to a compromise — let you know when he will be over, keep serious affection stuff (not a kiss or holding hands, but certainly full on making out) to her room, and be sensitive if you ask her to keep things down while you study. You have a right to a safe and comfortable home!

However, you may need to make some compromises, too — maybe arrange for the times when they get the living room and you are in your room, or find a good, quiet place to study outside of home. She also has a right to a home where she can safely be with her boyfriend and enjoy time with him.

It’s a compromise, but you are absolutely in your right to bring it up! Good luck!

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (52 minutes after post)

thats not being bitter hun. youre feeling an invasion of space, and you feel awkward with them constantly doing that in front of you. my sister and her boyfriend used to do the exact same thing. just mention it to her that it bothers you and maybe shell lay off a little.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

I agree with replier here completly….Good Luck!

Anonymous wrote:
No, you are not being bitter — you share your house and she needs to be considerate of your needs.

I would take her aside and check in with her — let her know that you like her boyfriend and are very happy for her and about the relationship, but their time spent in the house sometimes affects your ability to get stuff done. Maybe pick one incident and let her know how it affected you or made you feel. Ask if she would be willing to come to a compromise — let you know when he will be over, keep serious affection stuff (not a kiss or holding hands, but certainly full on making out) to her room, and be sensitive if you ask her to keep things down while you study. You have a right to a safe and comfortable home!

However, you may need to make some compromises, too — maybe arrange for the times when they get the living room and you are in your room, or find a good, quiet place to study outside of home. She also has a right to a home where she can safely be with her boyfriend and enjoy time with him.

It’s a compromise, but you are absolutely in your right to bring it up! Good luck!

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