friends help: I feel like a bad person. - Help.com

apologize to your boyfriend, first of all, before he leaves you! I mean, that is inappropriate.

Talk with him, try to work things out, and apologize. Those are the only things to do with any problem with people.
Then avoid getting drunk and putting yourself in situations where this could happen again?

There are so many posts on this website about people don’t things while drunk that they regret now. The simplest way to keep such things from happening is to not get drunk. Losing your inhibitions is never a good thing.

be honest - explane the situation. its happened now so you have to face the music. it will be fine however, we all make mistakes

i talked to my friend about it and she said that everyone was being flirty and dancing together, and not to worry about it. im afraid that if i bring it up to my boyfriend he’ll be more worried about it and think it must have meant something more than it actually did. if he brings it up i’ll definitely acknowkledge it and apologize though

It’s normally a bad idea to let fear mess with your communications with other people. If you can’t trust him to not to jump to conclusions and assume more into your actions if you talk about it, then there’s already a problem in your relationship.

i guess youre right…it wouldnt hurt to bring it up and apologize, even if he didnt notice it or wasnt upset by it. i’ll probably call him later today. how should i bring it up/say it? and d you think its ok to talk about over the phone?

You can talk about it over the phone, but it’s much safer to talk to people in person so you can gauge their reaction and not assume things.
You could just tell him there’s something that bothered you that you want to talk to him about.

when i talk to him i think im just going to say, i wanted to apologize for last night, i think i may have been acting a litle flirty and dancing too much with other guys and im sorry if i made you feel uncomfortable because i want you to be happy……. how does that sound?

Pretty good. You might also want to mention the way it made you feel too.
Also, is there a way you are going to try to keep this from happening in the future? Perhaps changing your habits or being more careful?

im definitely going to take it easy on the drinking…sometimes i drink too much when im nervous in a social situation. i’ll also recall how this made me feel the next time i see the guy who looks like my ex and make a point not to be flirtaceous. anyway i think i might also sa to my boyfriend that i didnt really like how i acted last night and that i drank too much and wanted to apologize for that too. hes pretty laid back so he probably wasnt even bothered by any of this, but i think id feel better if i just apologized..

You probably will =) It helps us to talk about what bothers us to people who care about us.