Family help: i think im going mad. - Help.com

although it may sound extreme, but it may be benificial to see a doctor. Perhaps get some meds, to even things out until your life settles down. Also many places, have self-help anger management programs, and I would look into that, and see if there is one in your area.

Yep. I know the feeling.
If your dad beats or did beat you up, then yeah I’d see someone for that.

I see two possibilities here. Either you are having a lot of negative influences in your life, such as your dad, so that you can’t get rid of this until you can remove those negative influences.
OR, you are trying to bottle up your feelings and keep them to yourself, so that it just builds up until you explode. Instead, you should be expressing your feelings as soon as you feel them instead of building them up. One piece at a time. It helps to talk to people, journal about it, or do something that relaxes you.
Perhaps both of the above are the case, I don’t know.

What do you think?

yes, i agree with JRoulston. You need to see a professional so that you’ll be able to take control of your life again and bury all those bad memories. check your local department of health website to get a list of centers that you can visit. i wish you all the best.

i did go mad a few times

whatever you do don’t hurt yourself, you can get locked up for that

if you have hurt yourself only tell someone you really trust if you have to talk about it

if you need to let your anger out, do it in a positive way like get a punch bag

medication could probably help but you may have to get involved with psychiatric doctors which can be a right pain.

get excercise, like go for a walk. that should release tension.

DarkSnow wrote:
Yep. I know the feeling.
If your dad beats or did beat you up, then yeah I’d see someone for that.

I see two possibilities here. Either you are having a lot of negative influences in your life, such as your dad, so that you can’t get rid of this until you can remove those negative influences.
OR, you are trying to bottle up your feelings and keep them to yourself, so that it just builds up until you explode. Instead, you should be expressing your feelings as soon as you feel them instead of building them up. One piece at a time. It helps to talk to people, journal about it, or do something that relaxes you.
Perhaps both of the above are the case, I don’t know.

What do you think?

yeah, you’r right. its both although i did recently have my best friend to talk to who understands me and my problems and most the time helps me calm down. but like i mentioned im actually stressed everyday, sometimes more than others and even thought i talk to my friend everyday its not always enough. when im mad i tend to think less about relaxing and finding something to relax me but ill put that in mind and do somthing to calm me down. thanks for the advice.

You’re quite welcome. It’s good that you have that friend you can talk to, and that’s a very helpful thing. But it would also be good to get help in other ways too when that friend is unavailable. So see what things you are able to do that help you with those things. Journaling is the main one that comes to mind, but painting, music, writing, going for runs, etc. different people find helpful.
And as much as possible, keep removing the negative influences in your life even as you continue to increase the number of positive ones.

supergeek00 wrote:
i did go mad a few times

whatever you do don’t hurt yourself, you can get locked up for that

if you have hurt yourself only tell someone you really trust if you have to talk about it

if you need to let your anger out, do it in a positive way like get a punch bag

medication could probably help but you may have to get involved with psychiatric doctors which can be a right pain.

get excercise, like go for a walk. that should release tension.

its ok, i end up hurting my self when im mad or rather kick or break something (got beat up for that loads so not such a good idea) but its not so bad its not like id stab my self… (tried to cut my self wen i was younger but ended up with a red mark and nothing else)
i did threaten sis with a small knife though but i wouldnt actully hurt her, im scared of hurting spiders to hurt a person really.
but wen i say hurt my self i guess i did punch my self or bang my head against somin to calm down wich jst gave me a bad headache…

hmm but thanks for the advice again, i guess a pushing bag will be good too.

Although I am an advocate of both journaling, and of contructive venting of emotions (punching bag), I still think that seeing a doctor would be benificial. I have had similar problems, which eventuialy drove me to trying to commit suiside… I don’t want that to happen to anyone else.

Hi. You are not going mad. Your feelings are normal response to being under physical, emotional and psychological stress for a long time. I’m not surprised you are angry if you have been beat up by your Dad. Being angry is also a normal response.

It’s great you have started talking on Help.com and have got a friend to talk to. A Punch bag sounds like a great idea and a good start.

There are services that can offer support and advice to young people in stressful home situations. Some are good and some are not so great but it might be worth seeing what is in your local area.

Are you at college or school?

tenshi wrote:

but wen i say hurt my self i guess i did punch my self or bang my head against somin to calm down wich jst gave me a bad headache…

hmm but thanks for the advice again, i guess a pushing bag will be good too.

I also banged my head off a wall once in frustration, which didn’t hurt me, but there were people that saw me do it and I got locked in hospital for some time which actually caused me more pain than a little bang on the head.

so I recommend you be cautious of how you behave around others

Seven wrote:
Hi. You are not going mad. Your feelings are normal response to being under physical, emotional and psychological stress for a long time. I’m not surprised you are angry if you have been beat up by your Dad. Being angry is also a normal response.

It’s great you have started talking on Help.com and have got a friend to talk to. A Punch bag sounds like a great idea and a good start.

There are services that can offer support and advice to young people in stressful home situations. Some are good and some are not so great but it might be worth seeing what is in your local area.

Are you at college or school?

umm im not in school, i finished but i want to go collage but that’s another thing… (dad doesn’t allow)
thanks for your response, i didn’t know of this site till yesterday and i somehow ended up here by chance. hmm its just finding those services but i guess i could try and see what i could find. thanks again for the advice

supergeek00 wrote:

tenshi wrote:

but wen i say hurt my self i guess i did punch my self or bang my head against somin to calm down wich jst gave me a bad headache…

hmm but thanks for the advice again, i guess a pushing bag will be good too.

I also banged my head off a wall once in frustration, which didn’t hurt me, but there were people that saw me do it and I got locked in hospital for some time which actually caused me more pain than a little bang on the head.

so I recommend you be cautious of how you behave around others

yeah i don’t do it in front of y family or anyone, well i try not to since my mum already thinks I’m going mad and apparently thinks I’m gnna become a criminal; which doesn’t help much. i keep that to myself mostly although my friend knows i end up hurting my self n tries to stop me and calm me down.

JRoulston wrote:
Although I am an advocate of both journaling, and of contructive venting of emotions (punching bag), I still think that seeing a doctor would be benificial. I have had similar problems, which eventuialy drove me to trying to commit suiside… I don’t want that to happen to anyone else.

trust me i tried that… but i couldn’t do it. so it’s not gnna happen now or ever. but i guess i could see someone to help me. thanks

tenshi wrote:

Seven wrote:
Hi. You are not going mad. Your feelings are normal response to being under physical, emotional and psychological stress for a long time. I’m not surprised you are angry if you have been beat up by your Dad. Being angry is also a normal response.

It’s great you have started talking on Help.com and have got a friend to talk to. A Punch bag sounds like a great idea and a good start.

There are services that can offer support and advice to young people in stressful home situations. Some are good and some are not so great but it might be worth seeing what is in your local area.

Are you at college or school?

umm im not in school, i finished but i want to go collage but that’s another thing… (dad doesn’t allow)
thanks for your response, i didn’t know of this site till yesterday and i somehow ended up here by chance. hmm its just finding those services but i guess i could try and see what i could find. thanks again for the advice

Hi Tenshi,

It is a good site. Help.com. Loved by lots of people! :)
If your Dad is preventing you from going to college too it is important that you get support from outside the home. It sounds MASSIVELY stressful. NOT your fault. Yes good plan, see what services you can find in your area.

Seven wrote:

tenshi wrote:

Seven wrote:
Hi. You are not going mad. Your feelings are normal response to being under physical, emotional and psychological stress for a long time. I’m not surprised you are angry if you have been beat up by your Dad. Being angry is also a normal response.

It’s great you have started talking on Help.com and have got a friend to talk to. A Punch bag sounds like a great idea and a good start.

There are services that can offer support and advice to young people in stressful home situations. Some are good and some are not so great but it might be worth seeing what is in your local area.

Are you at college or school?

umm im not in school, i finished but i want to go collage but that’s another thing… (dad doesn’t allow)
thanks for your response, i didn’t know of this site till yesterday and i somehow ended up here by chance. hmm its just finding those services but i guess i could try and see what i could find. thanks again for the advice

Hi Tenshi,

It is a good site. Help.com. Loved by lots of people! :)
If your Dad is preventing you from going to college too it is important that you get support from outside the home. It sounds MASSIVELY stressful. NOT your fault. Yes good plan, see what services you can find in your area.

Hey seven ^-^ yeah so I’ve been told :)
I used to get support from outside (other than my friends) since when I used to go to school, a lady working for the gov and specialist for this would come to meet me and advice me or ask me what I want to do to help me. but when I finished school I didn’t see her afterwards and I hope she hadn’t forgotten me as she would have helped me move out (I think it’s what I should do) but without her I’m quiet helpless. I’m trying to get in contact with her now. And it is stressful. I believe leaving home would be the best.

tenshi wrote:

Seven wrote:

tenshi wrote:

Seven wrote:
Hi. You are not going mad. Your feelings are normal response to being under physical, emotional and psychological stress for a long time. I’m not surprised you are angry if you have been beat up by your Dad. Being angry is also a normal response.

It’s great you have started talking on Help.com and have got a friend to talk to. A Punch bag sounds like a great idea and a good start.

There are services that can offer support and advice to young people in stressful home situations. Some are good and some are not so great but it might be worth seeing what is in your local area.

Are you at college or school?

umm im not in school, i finished but i want to go collage but that’s another thing… (dad doesn’t allow)
thanks for your response, i didn’t know of this site till yesterday and i somehow ended up here by chance. hmm its just finding those services but i guess i could try and see what i could find. thanks again for the advice

Hi Tenshi,

It is a good site. Help.com. Loved by lots of people! :)
If your Dad is preventing you from going to college too it is important that you get support from outside the home. It sounds MASSIVELY stressful. NOT your fault. Yes good plan, see what services you can find in your area.

Hey seven ^-^ yeah so I’ve been told :)
I used to get support from outside (other than my friends) since when I used to go to school, a lady working for the gov and specialist for this would come to meet me and advice me or ask me what I want to do to help me. but when I finished school I didn’t see her afterwards and I hope she hadn’t forgotten me as she would have helped me move out (I think it’s what I should do) but without her I’m quiet helpless. I’m trying to get in contact with her now. And it is stressful. I believe leaving home would be the best.

Hi Tenshi, I am glad you have thought of someone who can help. Your local Social Services are by law, supposed to help too. If you are under 18 and can’t live with your family, there is a law called ‘The Southwalk Judgement’ which says they have to help. If you are in the UK - try this site too. KOOTH.com. It is an online counselling service for young people. I akm sure your worker will not have forgotten who you are. If you remember her and think she could help, she will remember you!

Seven wrote:

tenshi wrote:

Seven wrote:

tenshi wrote:

Seven wrote:
Hi. You are not going mad. Your feelings are normal response to being under physical, emotional and psychological stress for a long time. I’m not surprised you are angry if you have been beat up by your Dad. Being angry is also a normal response.

It’s great you have started talking on Help.com and have got a friend to talk to. A Punch bag sounds like a great idea and a good start.

There are services that can offer support and advice to young people in stressful home situations. Some are good and some are not so great but it might be worth seeing what is in your local area.

Are you at college or school?

umm im not in school, i finished but i want to go collage but that’s another thing… (dad doesn’t allow)
thanks for your response, i didn’t know of this site till yesterday and i somehow ended up here by chance. hmm its just finding those services but i guess i could try and see what i could find. thanks again for the advice

Hi Tenshi,

It is a good site. Help.com. Loved by lots of people! :)
If your Dad is preventing you from going to college too it is important that you get support from outside the home. It sounds MASSIVELY stressful. NOT your fault. Yes good plan, see what services you can find in your area.

Hey seven ^-^ yeah so I’ve been told :)
I used to get support from outside (other than my friends) since when I used to go to school, a lady working for the gov and specialist for this would come to meet me and advice me or ask me what I want to do to help me. but when I finished school I didn’t see her afterwards and I hope she hadn’t forgotten me as she would have helped me move out (I think it’s what I should do) but without her I’m quiet helpless. I’m trying to get in contact with her now. And it is stressful. I believe leaving home would be the best.

Hi Tenshi, I am glad you have thought of someone who can help. Your local Social Services are by law, supposed to help too. If you are under 18 and can’t live with your family, there is a law called ‘The Southwalk Judgement’ which says they have to help. If you are in the UK - try this site too. KOOTH.com. It is an online counselling service for young people. I akm sure your worker will not have forgotten who you are. If you remember her and think she could help, she will remember you!

Thank you, I will check the website out :)
yes I am 17 and in the UK. I have now her number, its just a matter of her answering since I think she was on vacation and hopefully she will answer my calls (I tried a few times but I will keep trying anyways) Thanks again, your a great help and I’m glad your taking your time to reply and help. :D