Feeling help: When I was younger, I was molested by my cousin. - Help.com

Been through similar issues with family members. So i can relate to a lot of feelings around it.

I found that getting it out there and just accept it happening helped a bit. Have not really had any possibility to sit down and talk about it. My therapist was all over the place and i could not get comfortable until the end of the session every time so i touched subjects lightly.

I have been writing a bit about it in a journal and with a friend by e-mail. That really helped a lot s i could just get out everything i wanted without feeling uncomfortable talking to someone or worry about the time.

So i guess yo do have a lot of options here. It´s all about figuring out what works and to get going in some direction. You are willing to talk about it and that is a very big and important step.

Have you told any of your family about this? Or the police? I think you should you can’t let him/her get away with it this is extremely serious.

Like trentlover 20 said have you told your family, has his family been told.
My friend was molested by her uncle, she came from a family of 7, they had all
been molested by same uncle. this was years & years ago. But you never know
how many other family members are in the same position as you

Sending you a Giant Cyber Hug for comfort & Strength

You could do this: find out where that cousin will be in a family gathering of some kind, pay him a visit, and in front of his family denounce him for his actions.

Then let the chips fall where they may. Molesters do not deserve anonymity.

I disagree with the public shaming. I think that it would be to hard for you at this time. The best advice I can give is to just blurt it out to your counselor. Close your eyes and scream it if you must. It’s like a band-aid, the pull hurts, but you can just get it over with. I guarantee that they WILL NOT JUDGE YOU! This is a crime that was committed against you. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG! Get it out, make up your mind that before you even say hello to your counselor that it will be the first thing out of your mouth. Once you have said it, you can start to work on healing from it.

I WANT TO SAY THIS AGAIN BECAUSE IT IS VERY IMPORTANT: YOU DID NOTHING WRONG! THIS CRIME WAS COMMITTED AGAINST YOU! YOU DID NOTHING WRONG!

Up to the OP, of course, but “outing” the molester would help–in my own humble opinion–to bring closure.

Why should victims suffer in silence, while the predators bask in the praise and support of their families?

Pain like this should be shared–with the perpetrator. Let HIM know how it feels to feel shame.

Absolutely agree that our OP is totally blameless and innocent. But I think we all hold onto a certain amount of baggage as long as our victimizers are running around Scot-free.

Eventually that may be a viable option, I just don’t want this person to do it before they are strong enough to fight.

chev.jame wrote:
Up to the OP, of course, but “outing” the molester would help–in my own humble opinion–to bring closure.

Why should victims suffer in silence, while the predators bask in the praise and support of their families?

Pain like this should be shared–with the perpetrator. Let HIM know how it feels to feel shame.

Absolutely agree that our OP is totally blameless and innocent. But I think we all hold onto a certain amount of baggage as long as our victimizers are running around Scot-free.

I totally agree with Chev.jame, but like i said with my church friend, the uncle was doing it to more than just her. My concern is not only for you, but to stop him from hurting any one else. Be strong