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I feel like I’m a horrible friend.

Okay, so my friend and I were sort of flirting a few months ago but it was just innocent fun. People kept telling me that he liked me and that we should get together. And it might have been all the pressure or something but at one point I started believing it and thought that I liked him. Then we both went on vacation and I didn’t really think about it much but we still kept in touch. When we got back, we still hung out like before and were still super friendly with each other. However, after a crazy weekend with friends, he starts unloading his girl problems to me and it turns out he likes this other girl. At first, I felt slightly uncomfortable and awkward but I didn’t let anything on. Now, I’m just a bit sad because I know that we won’t be as close friends as we are now once him and the girl start dating (which they will because she’s mad for him). He’s been a really good friend and I just don’t want to lose another friendship (I had to move interstate and leave all my friends behind earlier this year). But now I feel like I’m being a bad friend for thinking all this stuff.

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Dr. Ozy offline Verified User (6 years) Long Term User Shouts: 39 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

you feel bad because you don’t want him to date someone else?

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9 months, 3 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

No. I am really happy for him and I want what’s best for him. I feel bad for … having these thoughts at all!

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

hmm, i’m having a hard time trying to figure out what’s wrong with the thoughts you’re having. if you’re going to lose a friend, i wouldn’t blame you for being sad about it.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (34 minutes after post)

Why lose a friend? OK, so the guy’s already in a relationship.

I’m just betting that there are several million other guys out there that are “free” and who would make a great boyfriend.

You don’t have to listen to this guy’s girl problems . . . instead, find someone who’s unencumbered for a boyfriend–and you’ll still have this guy as a friend!

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