relationship help: Me, my girlfriend, some problems - Help.com

Evansent.:) wrote:
I am trying to think of the right words to say.Im afraid if you carry on suffocating your gf,eventually she will stray.
You are going to have to accept the inevitable,free the reins a bit.

I have no choice, I hope she wants me yet..

Evansent.:) wrote:
Why is the rest of your life falling apart?

Bro, I’m in bad economy situation and I can’t continue my studies
I find myself without a single one friend which I really count on
And I have a genetic disease, Alport Syndrome, the results are always the worst and I was taking this with hope, thanks to my girlfriend.. And now I don’t know .. It seems I’m losing everything..

Evansent.:) wrote:
Sounds like you have a solid relationship up to now.
Just try&let her breathe a little.
Why cant you consider your studys?

Im sorry about your health,sometimes life deals a prftty hefty blow.
You will make plenty of friends here.You dont have to feel alone.
Your girl needs time to come to terms with things.
It will work out.Dont lose hope.

I’ll try this way.. I dont wanna lose her, maybe it may sound stupid but right now she’s all my strength
For my studies, I wanna finish it, and Im try everything to make some money to keep study..
And thanks for nice words, i’m more confident now..

I really hope everything will turns out well..

Evansent.:) wrote:
It doesnt sound stupid.Its natural to become dependent on your love.

What ways have you tried obtaining money?
Thats what we are here for.:)

Yes, i think the same, love can makes real difference in life
By the way.. Search for any type of works but it seems hard to find someone who want helps me, i’ve no experience sincerely..
My family have no much money, but my grandma is trying to help me with some money..

Zirbel wrote:
I guess you’re too clingy, and the mistake you could make is to become even more clingy, because you’re so afraid to lose her.
As others said already above: Give her MUCH more freedom and clearance, and let her breathe! Otherwise you will really lose her.

Beside that:
SHE may never be the reason just that your life will not fall apart! That would anyway overcharging her (as well as everybody else)!
A good relationship should be a supporting companionship for life, but not the one and only meaning of life.
And it seems, that you stuck — with or without her.
YOU should ACT and find YOUR own path through YOUR life. If you cannot find it yourself, don’t burden your relationship with, but ask for professional help by a psychotherapist.

I’m too clingy ’cause she makes me like that with some stupid things she has done
She’s is my support, my strength for all of my trouble and I’m not overcharging her or our relationship..
I’m afraid of losing her, I’m afraid of wake up and see her so distant, ’cause she’s very important for me, we’ve been trough so much together but lately I made some errors and she’s broken now and she’s reacting like that..
I’m not afraid of giving her all of the freedom she needs, I’m afraid this could be an excuse and maybe she don’t feel the same things for me like before..

Zirbel wrote:
What are

keisuke wrote:
some stupid things she has done

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And what means

keisuke wrote:
I made some errors

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Tell a bit more, please, that we can understand better the situation.

One night he got drunk and there was a kiss with a guy
But this is a small thing, there are so many things, a lot of small things, so many wrong attitudes
And she doesn’t want me to go out with unsavory people, because these people are always drunk and smoke marijuana, I’m not interested in these things, I dont wanna smoke or get drunk, but a few days ago I came out with these people, they are 2 brothers, and they moved in another city and I just wanted to say goodbye
She was furious because she says that I have not respected her will
And just to make a small clarification, WE are choking US, I’m not choking her

And another one of my errors that was keep in touch with my ex girlfriend, just as fried, but she went crazy and don’t want me to keep talking with her

Anonymous wrote:
you shouldnt be talking to your ex girlfriend. Thats a no no. Thats just what i think.

Yeah I know, but this is a old story, even if she’s still hurt from this..

Evansent.:) wrote:
You mean *she* kissed a guy?
I can understand her not wanting you to keep bad company, however they are your friends.
She knew what they was like when she entered the relationship,yes?
Another thing I dont agree with, people should be allowed to keep in contact with their exes(unless there was abuse involved)
If theres trust on both sides then there shouldnt be a problem for either of you.

One guy kissed her, but she dint tell me anything even if I told her to tell me everything about that night and she lied to me, 5 times, after 2 weeks, she confesses everything crying and yes, I forgiven her and everything is fine
Yes, she knew everything about that guys and about me..
For the ex.. I was not very correct.. She was right
I trust her, I just dont wanna lose her and dont wanna see her so distant from me, it makes me thinking bad things..

Evansent.:) wrote:
Sorry. You should still have contact with exes(unless abuse was involved)
If theres trust,you should both be mature enough to understand.

That’s the point, sometimes she’s just a lil.. Immature and vindictive :D