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tell her to make up her mind, and let you know
and maybe you’ll be there once she decides to stop playing games

It sounds as if it could be a) she doesn’t know what she wants or b) you are getting played. Either way, as you like her, her behaviour isn’t helpful.
If you are truly interested try hanging out with her again. If she declines, become inaccessible to her, for two reasons. Human nature is so, that we always seem to want what we can’t have and 2) because you don’t want to be messed around so if the signs are there and nothing is happening - move on.
When she realises that it ‘looks’ as if you are moving on from her, if she wants you she will make a move. If she carries on down the same path oblivious and nothing happens, call it a day.
Personally, I don’t think its right that she is going through your phone, and for that reason alone I would stay well away from her before anything does happen. All the best.

If I were you I would just say your usual greeting to her eg. “alright?” “what’s up?” or whatever you normally say. Don’t go looking for her, just wait until your paths cross naturally. Then I would just carry on chatting with others or doing what you would normally do. Leave it to her to make a move. If she doesn’t it could be a) she likes a challenge and wants you to give in first or b) she doesn’t care or c) she is surprised that she is no longer able to wrap you around her little finger.
If its a) think about if you really want to be in a relationship with a ‘power’ struggle before it starts (I wouldn’t - not knowing where you stand with someone you care about really does undermine your confidence and self esteem.) If its b)you have your answer and then move on. If its c) wait until the next time your paths cross and just greet her and ask how she is, and wait to see how she responds. She should have softened and maybe you can both take it slowly.
At the end of the day all relationships should be 50/50. Look at the time you have spent with her - who did the talking, who controlled the situation? Overall there should be a balance. Personally, before I met my husband, I didn’t like getting played. I went out with a guy for 2 years who I should not have even given any time too, and he used all the tricks in the books - flirting and then cold, talking to me then ignoring me and flirting with other girls, telling me he loved me and then not phoning and so on. That was years ago and I’ve had other boyfriends and now I am very happily married BUT would I go through it again - never in a million years. What is the point? All it does is screw your head, embarass you in front of others and plays on your self esteem. Don’t go there. Learn from the mstakes and advice of those who never had anyone to give them a heads up.

Personally I think she is used to dating those type of people who are like that, I’m not your typical guy I like to think I’m a bit more mature, but when we get a talkin n she puts her Baird down we really seem to click and it just really feels awesome, n when she read my texts she pry felt.like I was “playing here” but u got to keep ur options open n I don’t make the relationships serious n if I do it becomes a one woman thing, but I doubt she believe it but idk

I’d tell her, “Well, if you ever break up with your boyfriend, give me a call.”

Right now she doesn’t know what she wants, and that’s the kind of person who will mess up your head and break your heart.

Don’t listen to her tales of woe about her boyfriend. Tell her, “Good luck with that” and walk away.

In fact, if I were you, I’d factor her out of my thoughts completely. At this stage of the game, she’ll just frustrate you.