friends help: How do you stop being needing and attracting people who treat you badly? - Help.com

lord have mercy, my problem exactly
I think i’m just a giant Loser magnet
they just seem to be acctracted to me

People come into your life to teach you. If you´r not open to learn, then they will keep on coming.

It´s not that complicated really. It´s about seeing what´s there rather than living in a dreamworld. Take away the blindfold and all the illusions and you´re left with the truth.

See people this way and you can tell almost right away who´s who.

I try to learn but the only thing I’m learning from those people is not to let people walk all over me. But if I try to stand up to them they get mad and dont wanna let me cause thats how they like their friendships I guess.
And I tried to live a life where I wouldnt be friends with messed up people like that but then I had no friends. They seem to be the only people I can get along with

Much to learn still i guess.

I could tell you much about this, it´s much better for you to figure it out by yourself though. To be told what to do and do it will not change anything in you. It will only be a window to see other things.

What you need to do is to create the door and walk through it. If you don´t want to do this, then you will remain where you are.

Fake it with the positive ones by buying a book on manners. Practice on them until it becomes the real you and mimick their positivity.

having good friends doesn’t mean you just get to dump all your problems on them until you feel better. i’m thinking that you might not have any good friends because you have yet to learn how to be a good friend yourself.

How am I not being a good friend? Cause of dumping on people?

not necessarily. but if you treat friends like they are just tools to make yourself feel better, that’s not what friendship is about. friendship is a give and take where you take an interest in each other’s lives, learn about one another, have fun together, share memories with one another, and support each other. it has to be both ways.

you say you scare normal people off with your issues and clinginess. well, if you treat these people like they are your social worker or therapist, then you’re not really treating them like a friend.

Grim_Hardcastle wrote:
People come into your life to teach you. If you´r not open to learn, then they will keep on coming.

It´s not that complicated really. It´s about seeing what´s there rather than living in a dreamworld. Take away the blindfold and all the illusions and you´re left with the truth.

See people this way and you can tell almost right away who´s who.

Not to poop on someone else’s rant, BUT what are they here to teach me
How to get the knives they throw in my back out
I am a good person, yet people walk over me like I’m dirt