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time is your biggest obstacle and healer in a breakup.
make sure you have plenty of things to do in your time or you will just over think it.
i’m usually not for rebounds, as far I go, but in most cases rebounds can help you get over a relationship quickly.

It’s understandable I felt the same way when me and my ex broke up, i can promise you this it will pass and time will heal your wounds, don’t listen to Coldplay whatever you do lol listened to Coldplay on a loop when i got dumped haha. Just focus on the postivies you’re a very handsome bloke, you’ve got everything going for you and things will get better in time.

Sending you a Giant Cyber Hug
At 195 yrs old don’t really have guys my age to date
and as for being a cougar, doubtful

Laudanuum wrote:
Yeah I can already feel the urge to whack on the sentimental music… I may have to re-adjust my i-pod a little. Get some of my angry rock going.

Thank you. TL20, although as I’m sure you know well, the last thing I’m thinking is things are going my way… I’ll just make it through this week first.

TBH that is the only thing you can do, make it through the next couple of weeks and staying positive and eventually you will get through it :)

realize that there are more other lovely women out there who would love to be with you. It will hurt, but this will make you stronger and realize what it takes to maintain a relationship. also realize that it gives you time to get yourself back in order and focus on more important things, if this relates. its best to have your heart broken then to have never loved. distance makes the heart grow fonder and this may bring her back, but do not dwell on this fact or else you may lose what you hope to gain. if you love something, let it go, and if it comes back then it was always yours, but if it does not, then it was never meant to be.

I’m in the same boat and I have all this anger inside right now too. Busy and becoming spiritual is what I’m doing. I throw myself into books, work, call all my friends ( but don’t talk about it at all with them). I Internet surf, prey, started a work out routine. I also set aside extra money for going out and shopping. I’ve dolled myself up. I’m seriously feeling confident and beautiful. I broke up with this guy a couple of months ago and the grief was so unbearable I nearly took my life. He came back and it brought me out if. We broke up again because it really wasn’t meant to be but this time I’m sooo not getting depressed and it’s a firm choice. Depression wreakedhavoc on my body, soul, mind, job, and family. I’m doing more with the family. I’m allowing men to take me out. I’m giving someone else a chance to get to know me and I them. It’s working too. Im happiest when I’m busy. I’m working on me and reaping the benefits. I suggest the same. I used to have no life outside of him so I have to be creative too. I make up errands to do no matter how small. I make trips to the book store, sit down to read with coffee in hand. And I’m forever looking for people I can start up a convo with. I didn’t know I had it in me but I’ve become the invented to conversation starters. I went to Las Vegas and confidently approached people to hang out with and was never alone and I had one of the best vacations I’ve ever had. What it comes down to for me is a choice. I strongly urge you Not to allow it to run your life. CHOOSE.

which is usually how people feel after a break up. Do things that make you happy, and dont concentrate on moving on, because the more u concentrate on it, the more you will cling to it. If you get your mind off of this whole concept in all and just focus on yourself and your life, you will move on. Pride is a good thing, you just have to put it in the right place. Be proud of who you are and what you have become. Focus on what you want out of life and things that make you happy. Be with friends, partake in activities that you love, and do things that maybe she didnt like or approve of.

Well this is what I know from medicine : First thing to do after a cut is to apply pressure and stop the bleeding. Here only time is your friend and it moves at its own paste. And a deep cut like a broken heart needs time to heal. It’s not possible to move on quickly– if your not ready then you will only inflict more pain if you force yourself. Try keeping yourself busy– maybe concentrate on the things you have forgotten / neglected so you could have a relationship.
I read somewhere that when in love (addicted) you lose/distance at least two close friends….
Read books! I found a great deal of help in books about relationships after my break up– it helped me analyse and absorb so I could move on.
Rebounds are not a very bad idea either. Being with someone new gives you a better perspective on yourself.

I use to listen to country music, every song was bout losing someone
or something. I just don’t listen to music anymore
Loved Trace Atkins, Toby Keith, Rascal Flatts, Diamond Rio,
LOVED Brooks & Dunn, mainly Ronnie Dunn, but haven’t listened for years

Your welcome:-)
If we weren’t annonamous I’d ask you out :-)

doll197 wrote:
Your welcome:-)
If we weren’t annonamous I’d ask you out :-)

Yeah and me :) but in all seriousness you will get through this, chocolate helps a lot when you’re going through a break up lol when my ex broke up with me I just lived off chocolate i didn’t even give a **** that i was supposed to be on a diet, the most important things are to obey your body because a break-up can be very tiring, shocking, and to some it can be damaging, so if you want to sleep, sleep, you want to cry you cry your eyes out because when you go through a break up the only things you can do are to do the things you really want to do that you know will bring you comfort and will help to restore you.