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I feel bad.

I’m moving to another city/country in september and I’ve been looking for a room where to live for nearly a month, and I’ve found one, but it’s in a flatshare with a guy. He seems really nice, but I feel scared of jumping into living like that with a practically unknown person. So I refused. Out of fear, just because it’s a guy. And now I feel wrong.
What should I do?

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Padre J Roulston online Verified User (4 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1,042 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

try contacting him again and let him know your fears, and perhaps try and get to know him… assuming that the room is still for rent.

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southern_comfort online Verified User (7 years) Long Term User Shouts: 178 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 21 minutes after post)

Your fears are well intentioned, but because of stories in the press you can’t give a total stranger a fair shake. There are thousands of people that move in together on a weekly basis that barely know each other. Only the ones that end in tragedy are the ones we hear about.
If possible contact him again to see if sharing that flat is still an option. Then ask for personal references that you could call to see what kind of person he is. Also try to meet in person before the move. First impressions about somebody are usually right.

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9 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 16 hours after post)

Thank you for your replies! I ended up meeting the guy again and renting the place, yay! :)

southern_comfort, IP wrote:
Only the ones that end in tragedy are the ones we hear about.

This is a very good point indeed. Thanks! Ans, yes, in any ways I wouldn’t move in with someone I never met even once.

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 17 hours after post)

I wish you all the best. I would also suggest you get the “ground rules” of this agreement in writing so each of you have it in writing. If it is not spelled out beforehand it isn’t plausible to hold someone to it afterwards.

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