friends help: So there’s this other guy… - Help.com

“should I text him?”
CALL him.

he is backing off because you are telling him to in signals!
you have not ruined things yet, but the process has started.
if you want him back, then tell him! tell him you were going through something but you want to be close again, or that you were being dumb, or whatever you want to tell him, just let him know what you want!
talk to him more, be more friendly, open, call him first. flirt, laugh, smile. and call.
that I cannot stress enough.
call.
him.
first,
it makes a worlds difference.

if you want him back, go get him!
after pushing him away, do you think he’s going to just magically poof at your door?
he’s probably being distant out of respect of what he thinks you want.

Allthemessylove is right . . . the only thing you DIDN’T do was tell him you needed to go so you could wash your hair (classic line girls use to tell boys they’re not interested).

Yep–you sent him classic signals telling him you weren’t interested.

You don’t have to talk to the guy all night long, and if you’re tired and need to go to bed, you should say something like, “Oh, Jeez, Bob–I’m so tired right now and I must get to bed–but I want to talk to you tomorrow!”

Didn’t do that, did you?

But if you don’t tell him you’re interested in him at this point, you can kiss him goodbye. After all, those signals you sent to him sent him away!

that summer feeling wrote:

Thank you guys so much! I’m about to go get my man lol! Well.. maybe tomorrow, I don’t want to bother him right now he might be out or sleeping or something.

THIS IS IT! This is that “I’ll do it tomorrow” or “I’ll do it the next day” attitude that kills relationship.
it’s like, 11 here. I don’t know where your at but it’s not thaaaat late…
how old is he? he could be awake. it’s possible.
I mean, it’s very likely…then again, if you talked to him so much before, you probably know when he goes to sleep.

well, wake his butt up. you gots some things to say! it’s important riiiiight?

that summer feeling wrote:
Oh my God! You’re right, you’re so right… I’m just a little scared to be honest. What if he doesn’t answer/reply? What if, what if, what if…

Lmao, ughhh I’m so nervous D:

**** it! I’ll just do it!

calm calm calm down! don’t be nervous, it’s okay! pick up the phone and dial…:)
a lot of snap judgement, spur of the moment decisions end up being the best ones! just call him and the words will come to you. don’t over think it!! you can do this!!!

it’s normal to be scared! just don’t be too scared to do something that will could make you happy!

did you text him?

okay, don’t get discouraged. he didn’t answer you, maybe he’s taking his time or maybe his asleep.

i mean, you can always try to get a hold of him tomorrow. and I know I just freaked out earlier saying tomorrow is the relationship satan, but now i’m saying if not tonight, then you can always try again. maybe he needs to just take time to register you tried to talked to him again, and tomorrow he’ll of thought of how he wants to approach it.
:P
I wish I could give you better advice! I feel like I really want to help you.

well, another thing to consider is he may be away from his phone. or like you said, asleep.

so don’t get discouraged…:)

don’t give up yet!! if he doesn’t reply tonight then he’s prolly just asleep.
tomorrow text him. whenever you think is best and appropriate. if he still doesn’t reply, then maybe you should call him. he may not answer, but you can leave him a voicemail, like “hey, sorry for everything that’s been going on, I just wanted you to know I want to be friends and I don’t want anything to be weird between us because I think your a cool guy, but if you don’t want to then that’s okay and we’re cool etc etc” I’ve had to give that speech a lot…

but he will probably reply tomorrow, if not later tonight :)
and then you must tell him how you feel if you want to progress! communication is essential..

:D im sure he did and still does…you just gotta give him some reasons to trust you:) let us know how it goes!

that summer feeling wrote:
That is, unless he didn’t like me as much as I thought.

I will keep you posted! Thanks for everything :)

yay:D i’m glad things worked out for you!

of course he did lol! he wanted proof you were interested in him..anyway, good luck with everything :)

Just don’t tell him you’ve got to go wash your hair . . . even if a bird poohed in it! ;-)