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It seems that you’re on a serious depression state.
You should see a psychiatrist to find back to your trail.
Psychotherapy and specific medication will help you!

Sounds like a textbook description of depression.

You are going to HAVE to take the first step to seek treatment, and you are going to HAVE to make a commitment to yourself to get back on your feet, so you can rejoin your family and rejoin the human race.

I’m not going to give you a pass to drop out of life. Everybody has problems, and everybody faces obstacles. You have obligations to your fellow human beings, as we have obligations to you.

Get up, get moving, and get an appointment with a competent doctor!

Agreed. I dont think anyone can say anything more to help you.
You need to help yourself.
Goodluck!

There is nearly no self-healing for depression.
Except: You make a RADICAL change of your life, leave ALL what’s bothering you, MOVE OUT of your actual living conditions etc.
But mostly in such a depression state like yours, you don’t have the POWER for all this.

Your prejudices about medications will not help you either. (All medications have side-effects, but the more important are the positive effects of them.)

Is living your life in bed an option?
Ok, but why have you made this post then?

You cant live your life in bed.

Your proud of living in bed,whatever for?
Are you ill?

I must apologise,I thought you said”you were proud”

Darn help is so slow today.

I guess we all feel like that from time to time.
We need to force ourselves,make changes.

Get washed,dressed,feel the air on your face.
Breathe life into your inner self.

Anonymous wrote:

Zirbel wrote:
There is nearly no self-healing for depression.
Except: You make a RADICAL change of your life, leave ALL what’s bothering you, MOVE OUT of your actual living conditions etc.
But mostly in such a depression state like yours, you don’t have the POWER for all this.

This happened before, in 2009. The time I discovered help.com too. Where I was was an internet addict. And where I left work, and became irresponsible. I did a radical change. An employment change helped me. It was a 100% turn around. I was able to wake up at 4;00 a.m. I was able to become responsible to work, and that made me lose more than 50 lbs. as well. I fell in love. Got a heartbreak, was discouraged. Work became discouraging also. And so now, I am back in the same place where I once started.

So you could try make a life turnover now again, no?

* try to make

It sounds like you were able to make a dramatic change from depression into active life — but without the reflection and support about why you were in that state of depression. As a result, it is always a place that you can fall back into if something changes in your life, or even for unclear or unexplained reasons.

Please don’t think that therapy is just for people who yell and scream. Therapy can be incredibly useful for anybody who is working on themselves to change their life for the better. I’m in therapy as a first year teacher working with students with socio-emotional issues because I know that I need to have my own emotions and triggers in check to be able to support them effectively.

Although medication can often help (my sister suffers from bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder, and her meds help her to be the person she really is), there are plenty of therapists (not psychiatrists whose jobs involve diagnosing and prescribing medicine) who are willing to work with their clients needs and respect their wishes to find alternate routes. I might not suggest returning the place you went to — but have you thought of finding a private practice (not one attached to a clinic or mental health ward) or an alternative therapist? I would highly recommend it so that you can really work through your demons, rather than relying on the possibility that you will be able to “snap out of it” again.

It is clear that you are a strong person who has the will and capability to do amazing things — please don’t let this illness get in the way!

Perhaps you do not need to call it an illness to be able to go through your healing — it is enough to say “I could be more than what I am no” and “I am not satisfied now”. But my friend, who suffers from depression, finds it useful to call it an illness, because that makes a specific, concrete (and physiological) issue that has a solution — rather than simply thinking of it as a flaw in character, or something that is permanent.

I’m not sure what country you are living in, so I do not know of the available options. I go to someone called a “Psychotherapist” — she does not have a doctorate degree, and therefore does not prescribe medicine, but rather has a degree in guidance and psychology, and experience with aromatherapy and meditation. She has an independent practice, and she has been an incredible source of support for me. She also did a joint session with me and my mother to help us through some of the difficulties, which was incredibly healing.

I’m glad to know that you found my response helpful, and I’d be happy to keep talking or try to give you more specifics about where to look if you let me know what country you are in. But no matter what, I think your realizations are important, and I hope that you will continue to work towards a life where you are satisfied — living the life you know you can and DESERVE to live!

Anonymous wrote:

Evansent.:) wrote:
Darn help is so slow today.

I guess we all feel like that from time to time.
We need to force ourselves,make changes.

Get washed,dressed,feel the air on your face.
Breathe life into your inner self.

Thank you for trying to help me. Yes. I must do it.

You dont have to thank me,I just hope you find yourself soon.Love Angie. X

Of course!

I can definitely understand your concern with sharing your intimate details with a stranger. I might suggest doing what I did — a first visit that is shorter just to get a sense of the person (you might even be able to do it over the phone). And you build up that intimacy with someone if the connection is right — you certainly don’t have to start with anything other than what you said here, and slowly build up trust and a repertoire.

In terms of cost, also a concern — but a lot of places take health insurance, and also have a sliding scale (as a teacher I make a lot less money than her other clients, so she charges me less).

No matter what, I have faith that you will find the strength to work through this reflectively and live the life you deserve to live!

All the best

Anonymous wrote:
I will be the person that God wants me to be.

Much better would be, to become the person that YOU want to be.
It’s all the same to god (if ever there is one).

All of us have to realize that dropping out of life is not an option. You have obligations and responsibilities to yourself and to others. You have a duty to contribute to society, and to civilization.

We all need to pull our own weight, and then some. That’s the only way a society can function. I don’t have to tell you what would happen if EVERYBODY decided to “turn off and drop out,” to paraphrase Timothy Leary.

Everybody gets discouraged. Life has its share of disappointments. Some of us are treated very unfairly. Some of us are persecuted by others.

No one has a perfect life. Not even the movie stars. Look at how many celebs have killed themselves through drug overdoses and outright suicides. Money and fame are not guarantors of happiness.

You need therapy. And you probably need meds to get you through some rough spots. I don’t think a person should be on meds forever, but they can help. Your serotonin levels may be very low–and that could be a chemical cause of your depression.

But nobody can drag you to a doctor’s office or to a therapist. You’ve got to do that yourself! And even though you may feel like absolute crap, you MUST drag yourself out of bed and take the first steps toward treatment.

LOTS of people have depression . . . it’s how they respond to it that makes all the difference!