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I need help to motivate myself.
I have bipolar and I have been in a depression lately. I stopped going to college even though I’m almost done with my degree. How can I motivate myself to get up in the morning and get back to school and just be normal?
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An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 34 minutes after post)
Make it a habit to do things that are simple, easy, stress free, and positive. Don’t put yourself in negative situations and just watch yourself. These things take time to get better.
don’t let your depression rule your life.
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 36 minutes after post)
first off i would say to contact your dr. and let them know about your depression. And to get going I would suggest focusing on one important aspect of your life. A child, school, etc. get up in the morning, for this aspect, pour your energy into that. then slowly add another aspect, then another and another… keep going until your life has a feel of what is normal for you.
bipolar is an obstacle, but passable. my cousin managed to overcome that. but to get motivation? you have to relate it to what you want in life. my motivation for, well everything right now is because i want to be a better person for the person i love. and being normal? what is normal? there is no normal among people, we are all ourselves. if we try to be who we arent then everything we accomplish isnt really something that we can be proud of.
Yup, break things down into easily accomplished tasks.
i’m not saying to be depressed and deal with it, but to follow your dream. if you are going to college for something you dont want, than no, you wont get motivated to do it, but if you are following your dream, it is that much easier to become motivated.
Perhaps you should start by trying to accomplish easy, everyday goals to help pave the way for the ultimate goal of going back to school.
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (6 hours, 36 minutes after post)
The thing that gets me out of bed in the morning is the experience I have of not doing it, by that I mean, when I have been fit physically to go to work but have stayed at home because my head is f***ing with me or I can not seem to find the motivation (mostly out of fear or the idea that I am exhausted) then I sit in the house and feel wretched. After a while I can no longer kid myself that staying away from the situation is better as I have made that choice enough times to realize it is no good for me.
The problem is complicated at times,particularly if I have not done something for a while, I will use the example of going to an AA meeting, when I have no recent reality to base a decision on (i.e. I have not been to a meeting for a few months) then I have to trust that it is the right thing to do so there fore must be done. So I ‘believe’ that I need to go to meetings if I am to have a better quality of life, so how I feel about it may affect my mood as I turn up but I try to rise above that and go anyway. The battle is in the mind, once I am through the door it is always better than my mind told me it was going to be. If I fail to go I just have to experience the feelings (and my head screwing with me) in order to be more motivated the next time.
As others have said, little steps at a time.
The danger is my world getting smaller and smaller. What I desire is the security of my comfort zone but also wanting the freedom to do stuff. When my mind is all over the place it seems all choice has gone, however as the other posts suggest, one little step at a time really helps. Other stuff that helps is sharing as honestly as I can and accepting the help (medical or spiritual)that is on offer. Your post is a great example of sharing honestly btw, it takes real courage to admit where you are at, not what you want others to see you as.
Depression for me is also tied into my world view, as it affects my perception. How I view the world and my place in it has an impact on my life. I never realized what an affect it had on me untill I started to change my view. I used to believe that I was of no real importance, of little value and that life was just about skating by meeting the few needs I dared to and pain was something to desperately be avoided. I now believe that I was created with purpose and meaning and that pain (mental and emotional in particular) is something that causes me to grow so should not be avoided rather endured. I would suggest reading some spiritual books to inspire you when you are able to, to develop that part of your thinking that can have such a big impact on how you interact with the world and how alive you feel. Spirituality for me is not about changing others it is about personal growth and changing me.
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*gives hug* think about it, when you’r degree’s over, you can sit back and chill, it’s not long till you’ll have your qualification. :) it’s not long now, head up friend :) keep walking, its only a few more steps :)
Believe in yourself, right from the start, Believe in the magic that’s inside your heart, Believe all these things, not because i tell you tooo, just Believe in Yourself, as i Believe in You …
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