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Why would guys take a bullet for their girlfriend?
I’ve been wondering since the Aurora incident, all my prayers and condolences are with the deceased and their family. The 3 guys that protected their girlfriends really got me thinking, I understand if it’s your wife or children, but girlfriend?? No offense but they are most likely going to start dating pretty soon! I’m a girl and I just don’t think guys owe any moral obligation to protect their girlfriend in a situation like this. My boyfriend said that he would take a bullet for me too when the news came up, and I told him it is almos idiotic.. I’m not calling those guys idiots, what they did was extremely heroic, but were they just acting out of instinct? I guess in my mind it’s always been a figure of speech when someone says he’d take a bullet for someone, and seeing it in real life is kind of mind boggling. I, as a girl, cannot imagine living with the guilt of another persons life! Guys, would YOU take a bullet for your girlfriend?? What makes you think her life is more valuable than your own?
Its just about sacrifice and love. If you truly love someone you will take a bullet for them whether its your girlfriend,friend or parent. There are a handful of people I would gladly take a bullet for, and once upon a time I would have done the same for my ex girlfriend.
Its called being “selfless”- its good to know that there still exists people like that :)
It´s about protecting what you love. In certain situation that trait comes out.
I have no idea what i would do tbh. It´s one thing to say it, another thing to do it.
They were good boyfriends. In fact, wonderful ones. Amazing. Loving. Caring. And they showed it.
Why did they die for their girlfriends? I don’t know. I wasn’t them. I guess I’m just glad to be the same species as people who do such caring, generous, eternally meaningful things.
1) if you feel something is more valuable than another thing, the thing of greater value will be naturaly protected first
2) maby people in that part of the world are taught to value life,
3) : unless a person has convinced me the world is better off without them : i would put my life on the line to save some one i didnt even like. thats just me.
the simplest answer. love. when you love someone enough, even if they are just your your girlfriend, and even with some guys even if you havent confessed yet, you want to protect them. i want to protect those close to me, even if it does cost me my life, so yes, i would jump in front of a bullet to save the one i love.
I would. Would I rather jump aside and let her take a bullet, and then live with that conscience that I let somebody else die when I could have taken it?
It makes me shiver to consider what I would do just for love itself, but that’s it really. We strive to protect what we love.
It’s hard to say. During such a time, I can’t imagine what was going through their minds and such a quick action wouldn’t necessarily be logical, but rather a reflex. I’d like to think it was out of love and a duty to protect. Just because a couple is not yet married, doesn’t mean their love is less intense or meaningful
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LOL my ex wouldn’t've taken a bullet for me no way he didn’t even stick up for me when some bloke was having a go at me on a night out LMFAO and he was the loveliest guy i’ve ever met. I guess it just depends on how much you love that person, if you have a bf who would take a bullet for you then you are one lucky ***** lol.
Evolutionary psychology: a man is never 100% certain whether or not a woman he is involved with is pregnant with his child. By protecting her he is protecting his unborn child and the mother who will be raising that child.
I think it is also a human instinct to protect anyone you love or even a stranger at that given the situation!
I knocked a guy out with a pool stick once not even thinking about it…just a reaction to 3 guys at once attacking my boyfriend. I think I would have done that for anyone that was being attacked.
it is certainly not axiomatic, I am glad to see a woman wondering WTF those guys were thinking too. But you are correct that it is an instinctive thing, which is generally based on sex/reproduction. Had they survived they would have surely increased their odds of “getting some”, though they should understand cognitively that there are less fatal ways to increase their odds.
It is not “Love”, that is just insulting, it is more a reflection of their own self worth, and, well society is so dependent on men being disposable (i.e. combat), that this is what they assumed society expected of them.
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