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I’m always the girl that’s friendly and cute but never desirable?

I don’t think any guy has ever thought of me as sexy or gorgeous. I’m pretty enough and friendly enough but people say I give off vibes that don’t let guys get close to me and I’m super independent. I suck at flirting in real life because I get nervous and avoid talking for too long. I have had a few guys that have asked me out but I always push them away. There must be something wrong with me. HELP!

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Hazel_LeSquirrel offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (1 minute after post)

Been in exactly your situation, get your confidence up somehow, and you’ll get better at flirting dont worry about it, youll find the right guy :)

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mintra offline Verified User (3 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

What are you saying you do not find yourself desirable, err.

Clearly the few guys who have asked you out had a different opinion.

Those who know dont say, those who say dont know.

Verbal communications is over rated avoiding talking is not an error.

“I always push them away” maybe these were not the worthy ones.

Nothing wrong you are just quality, in a sometimes tatty world.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour after post)

Identify the moment in your interaction where you push guys away. Identify what thing you do in that moment to push them away. Next time you interact, don’t do that thing.

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badwolf26 offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 19 minutes after post)

I was like that when I was in high school. I was cute and friendly but I never really dated anyone. All the guys I knew were more interested in girls that were “sexy” or “hot. But when I got to college guys started noticing me because I am sweet, smart, and fun. There is more to you than just your looks and once guys realize that they will be crawling over each other to date you. Trust me :)

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