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I come from nothing, bound and determined I made myself something.

By no means rich- but comfortable. My older sister constantly makes backhanded condesending remarks about my “lavish lifestyle” while she takes pride in her life of hard labor and struggle. I don’t understand why she wouldn’t be happy and or proud of me. I’ve never given her guff about her lifestyle choice. She always appeared happy and content, but her continual scrutiny more resently only implies else wise. We had a more resent argument that escalated swiftly, and ended badly. I love my sister, but I can’t be around her and continually take her passive aggressive verbal abuse. I asked to meet up with her next week to hopefully smooth things over. I don’t understand why she has such a negative response to those who make more than minimum wage. I have a 1 year old and a husband I’m putting through grad school. Life is by no means easy right now, and I could really use and appreciate her support. Don’t know if I’m going to get it :(

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Space Weaver offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

if I could i’d send you some of my support, though since I can’t do that physically I hope you know im thinking about you right now in spirit, me speaking to you is proof of that. hey listen, sometimes you have to love people from a distance, you may love her but can’t always be around her. years ago the people who I thought were my family I thought I could relie on but turned out to be a lie. however you actually have a real family, people to be around and love and to reflect on good times with (which I do not, so I envy you). enjoy time with them when you can. like people for what they can do right, but love them for their flaws. I know she may not understand how you feel which is why you have to take time to speak with her, just always remember, that’s your family, something you always keep in your heart.

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JDHC offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (37 minutes after post)

Thank you Space Weaver. I really appreciate your support.

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Space Weaver offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (41 minutes after post)

JDHC wrote:
Thank you Space Weaver. I really appreciate your support.

Anytime:)

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DarkSnow offline Verified User (3 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (12 hours, 53 minutes after post)

Perhaps it would help to talk to her about it and mention to her what she is doing. Perhaps she hasn’t noticed.

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