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If your partner is staying, then it’s because they WANT YOU regardless of deformities. And sex isn’t everything. So, no, not for those reasons I wouldn’t.

What about if you were in a lot of pain and distress 24/7 and you’re family were helpless do anything but watch you suffer. My deformity is very severe. Is it not better to end everyone’s suffering now. I used to enjoy life, but now don’t feel like I’m part of my family or life anymore. It is torturing me daily, all the things I will never do or see or experience again with them all. Thx

If you are so bad,then how are you managing to use a cmputer or a cell phone?

Sounds like you need to get some counseling to help you adjust to the circumstances.

Your definition of chronically deformed might not be my definition of it. Suicide is never a RIGHT answer to any problem. Seek counseling. Perhaps for both of you.

Well hopefully you take medication to ease the pain! I would change my attitude totaly and be as happy and positive as I could when loved one’s where around me as to not make them feel as bad for me.

I would want to feel good somedays so I could talk about life to the one’s I love and just having them there for me would make me want to fight and stay alive.

Are you asking a question or are you going through this yourself?

It would be nice if you shared what it is you are dealing with!

I just feel that suicide is the only answer. The only part of me not affected is the hand I type with and my feet! The rest of my body is twisted and distorted, including my face and teeth, which is horrible. I can’t really describe it, but I am really messed up. I have no where left to turn for help, they have all sent me away because it is so complex. I don’t want to hold my family back either. I just feel like, ok so I stay here, then what? I suffer and spoil it for you too.

It is up to them whether or not having you around spoils things. And apparently they don’t feel that way.

I’m sorry you’re going through this; but I can’t help but think that you can learn to enjoy life under your new circumstances. It will take time and it won’t be easy, but you can do it.

You said “they have all sent me away”? Are you in a care facility for handicap people?

Anonymous wrote:
I just feel that suicide is the only answer. The only part of me not affected is the hand I type with and my feet! The rest of my body is twisted and distorted, including my face and teeth, which is horrible. I can’t really describe it, but I am really messed up. I have no where left to turn for help, they have all sent me away because it is so complex. I don’t want to hold my family back either. I just feel like, ok so I stay here, then what? I suffer and spoil it for you too.

No, sorry. I meant all the specialists and doctors I’ve seen. Nobody in the medical profession seems to even care. I’ve been left and told to just live with it!

What, exactly, happened? You say “deformed” but I assume you mean “disfigured”?

Is your condition caused by an accident or something that your body just starting going through?
Do you live in the States?
I would really like to hear more about what you are going through. I mean a thousand words come to my mind and a million questions!

My heart goes out to you and I would care to hear as much as you care to share….and I do have words of encouragment I want to share as well!

Can we chat more?

Thank You for sharing and responding to my questions!

Anonymous wrote:
No, sorry. I meant all the specialists and doctors I’ve seen. Nobody in the medical profession seems to even care. I’ve been left and told to just live with it!

Thank you Nolateri, someone did this to me. I’m in the UK with a crappy NHS system. I know I will end it, I really don’t want to exist like this any longer. My life is over and is just a constant reminder all the time of what I have lost and what I cant do. I suppose I wanted people to just understand before I do and make me feel less guilty about it. What good is it doing being here now in this state? I wish he’d just killed me instead.

Alrighty then! Are you with family?
What did they do to you that caused such crippleness?
You come here to speak but you give very little information….all I can understand is you have been crippled and someone caused this condition upon you…..?

So speak what it is that you claim was done to you….and why did they do this?

If you are just here to bid your farewells then do so…..if you are here for help then ask! There are caring people here that will listen. Please tell us what happened to you and why?

You say you want people to understand but we first need to understand and only you can do that!

Guilt is not something we can take away from you only you can do that!

I know that if something bad happened to me I would still have loved one’s that would be there for me and would not want my life to be taken away because someone caused me pain!

I would pray that you have loved one’s that unconditionaly love you and are not wanting you to go away! I would think that by me ending my life it would only hurt my loved one’s more! If something terrible happened to someone I love I would be there for them forever and ever! And would feel even more pain if they ended their lifes all because they felt or thought they were a burden on me!

That would hurt worse then what has happened to them! Life is not a choice that is given to us! Nor is it something we choose and decide to live with! Life is a gift given to each of us and anything other then the air we breath is an extra…..be grateful for what you have experienced and be grateful for being here with those who care!

Life gives no promises! And the gift we have been given is not our’s to decide when it is taken away!

I suppose I wanted people to just understand before I do and make me feel less guilty about it.
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You don’t understand. We here may have some sympathy here for your situation, and may imagine that we understand what you are going through.

But killing yourself is not going to make anything any better. Ever. Your family will NEVER understand, and they will hurt over it for the rest of their lives. You are suffering; but they are, too. And while ending your existence may end your pain, it will just begin a whole new world of hurt for them.

Instead of harming yourself further, try to find some news to view your life and your circumstances. No matter how bad it may be, there is always someone who has it worse, and always someone who loves you and wants you just as you are. Find the good, and hold on tight.