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This happened a couple months ago but it still bothers me.

Basically my friend said her internet was crappy and she had a rough draft of an essay due the following day that required watching a movie. She wanted to come over to my house on mothers day to “use my internet” which i thought was really weird. I yelled at her for not procrastinating on her essay when she video called me. This is what happened after.

me:
what’s wrong?
Her:
i need to watch v for vendetta for my draft and i have **** internet
me:
then go to the library and bring headphones
im pretty sure you can find that movie on netflix
its a pretty popular movie
her:
netflix doesnt have it
i cant come to ur house?
or ur apartment?
library is slow too
me:
today is mothers day
my mom and i are going out
her:
oh.
Then she video called me, and I yelled at her for waiting until the last minute to do her essay.
Her:
i asked u for a favor cause i thought u were my friend!
how does that deserve u yelling at me?
oh cause i asked u for a favor and u yell at me?
that seems right to u?
wtf is wrong with u
oh so i do a **** load of favors for u even though it bothers me and then u yell at me
it is a ******* favor u need to yell at me for that?
its a ******* draft!
ur such a ***** all u think about is urself
i do all this **** for u and u yell at me when i just ask u for a ******* favor
wtf has gotten into u
im always here for u and then u just yell at me when its a bother for u
ur a ******* ***** that is self centered and only cares about urself
u never think about others
ur a selfish pathetic *****
me:
and you’re a **** idiot
you had all ******* weekend for this
her:
yeah im an idiot cause my mom works all day today and thats why i celebrated yesterday
its a ******* draft not essay
me:
and now that is due tomorrow, you expect me to drop everything to help you
yeah yesterday was mothers day for you, so what? you had thursday and friday to do it
you had time to talk to me, so im sure you had time for your essay
me:
i like helping you, but you can’t expect me to drop everything i’m doing just because you have time and i don’t
Her:
the draft doesnt even count for points and i just wanted to watch the movie so i can refresh my “dumb” brain
uh no u dont need to drop anything
and is it my work or your work? if i want to do it today whos fault is that? mine so why are u hounding me?
is it ur draft? NO is it ur grade? NO
is it a final essay? NO
yah i talked to u when i was going to do my essay but talking to u is more fun than doing english
so i put it off so i can play balloono with u and talk to u cause i feel bad when i dont call u back when i tell u im going to go ******
me:
but you still need to do it. the sooner you did it, the more free time you would have
her:
i NEVER expect u to drop anything for me nor have i ever nor will i ever cause i know im the only one that will ever make the sacrifices in this relationship
yah but u come at me like i told u if u dont help me i will hate u
me:
well you did cuss me out when i didn’t do anything wrong
her:
i never said that i just asked if i could use ur internet i didnt even ask for ur help. . .
yah and who yelled first?
and who came at me first?
did i yell at u before u yelled at me?
No
me:
yeah, and i told you my mom and i are going out in a bit
her:
u think ur like “god almighty”
yeah and i said oh
then i texted other people to use their internet
i dont need ur freaking help writing it
god ******
i just needed freaking internet
me:
oh really? then why did you ask me for help on your first essay?
go to the library, or starbucks, or somewhere
with wifi
or go to school.
theres always a way to find better internet
her:
cause i thought u would help me but in fact everything we did was wrong so i just did it myself and had u review it and edit it
well i thought of u as the first person that i would go to
if u dont like me going to u first then sorry ill go to someone else first
i thought since u are my sister i would come to u first
me:
you don’t need to come to me at all.
theres other places with better wifi than my house
her:
well then if i dont need to come to u i guess we arent really close
since u just told me to not come to u
then thats not a friendship
or anything close to sisterhood
me:
if it were me, i wouldn’t have called you. i would have found some other way to take care of the problem
her:
well i trusted u so i came to u first
me:
this has nothing to do with being sisters. you’re just looking for an excuse to hang out with me, when we both have no time to. The real reason why you want to come over is because you want to see me, and you’re using the excuse of “I have crappy internet can I come over?”
you have to figure out this essay, and im going out with my mom
her:
is that a problem? i didnt even ask for ur help u think im like trying to use u or smtn like everyone else except im not everyone else
me:
you shouldn’t have called anyone
her:
im suppose to be ur sister
u cant tell me what to do. . .
im not using u and u yell at me like im one of those people who are
well wake up im not using u i just thought i could use ur internet not ur freaking brain
me:
oh, so even when you come to me for help, i can’t tell you what to do? then why do you even come to me for help in the first place
Her:
if u dont want people in ur life that love and trust in u then why even bother talking to me
i come for help to get advice not to be told what to do duh
me:
you come to ask whether or not you can use my internet, and i say no because im busy. i then suggest other places where you can go for faster internet.
how am i in the wrong?
Her:
no one can tell me what to do u know that
okay, then why ask people for advice then? if you don’t listen to them, why bother asking them at all
her:
so u never started cussing at me and coming at me????? REALLY??????? u DIDNT CUSS AS ME OR YELL AT ME????????
Me:
i never cussed. my mom on the other hand, heard every word you said to me
and now she’s freaking pissed at you too
her:
cause i do listen but at the end of the day im going to do what i think is best right? i listen to other peoples advice and opinions and think if they are better
me:
i yelled, but i never cussed
her:
so? u like yelling at me?? i dont give a f is she is pissed at me
cause u were the one who came at me for asking u smtn
for no reason u yell at me
me:
i told you even before we videod that i can’t
her:
u can tell her u yelled at me because i asked if i could use ur internet
me:
so when you kept saying “all i want is your internet”
which first of all doesnt make any sense. why would you drive 30 minutes to use my internet when you could drive 5 minutes and use public wifi
me (replaying our message):
“11:53am
Me:
what’s wrong?
her:
i need to watch v for vendetta for my draft and i have **** internet
me:
then go to the library and bring headphones
im pretty sure you can find that movie on netflix
its a pretty popular movie
her:
netflix doesnt have it
i cant come to ur house?
or ur apartment?
library is slow too
me:
today is mothers day
my mom and i are going out
her:
oh.
me:
go rent it
her:
idk where” end playback
her:
i never said “all i want is ur internet”
me:
“i cant come to ur house?
or ur apartment?
library is slow too”
you’re insinuating it
her:
cause i dont like public places just like i dont **** in public places duh i feel more comfortable with people i know rather strangers
me:
what would you gain from coming to my house? you wouldnt get any work done
Her:
ummm i said options duhhh how the **** am i to know if it would be better to use ur internet in ur houe or apartment im just asking god ******* ******
u dont even ******* get what im ficking asking
but i forgot its ******* mothers day cause i celebrated yessterday
so go ahead tell ur mom that u yelled at me for asking to use ur internet see what she has to say
me:
then go with jason, he’s closer, or vivian, who’s also closer
it makes no sense that you would drive 30 minutes
for internet
her:
vivian is school internet its to slow obviously i already thought of her before u
me:
oh really? then why’d you say that you thought of me first?
Her:
30 mins to have internet better enviironment duhhhh or why would i drive 90 mins to go home home cause i feel comfortable
Duhhhhhhhh
me:
then why don’t you just drive home home?
Her:
cause i thought of vivian yesterday
i first thought of u today
me:
im sure your internet there is better than mine
her:
cause u went to the hospital so i didnt ask u and so i thought of her
is that a problem?
i wanted to also see ur face to see if u were better
me:
hah! See? That’s the real reason why you wanted to come over. This has nothing to do with your internet! I can’t believe you!
Her:
u know what, number one all i asked was to use ur internet not ur brain
you yell at me .
fine ok yell at me
then i get mad(anyone who gets yelled at for no reason would be mad)
me:
why my internet? there are many places with faster internet, yet you insist on using mine
her:
ummm ur my ******* sister of course i would prefer urs to public
do u not understand the mother ******* idea of u as my ******* BFF????
do u not understad ur like my ******* sister???????
Me:
whats wrong with public?
Her:
u wonder why i get pissed off when u dont get things through ur head
i HATE PUBLIC
should no i dont like public its dirty and people idk
me:
then thats your problem, not mine
her: ok well thank u for letting me know i cant use ur internet ill find somewhere else, and thanks for yelling at me when i just asked for internet
me:
public internet is faster than private, since i serves more people
your request makes no sense to me
her:
and thank u for yelling at me when ithought i could talk to u and ask u
thanks for making me feel very loved and comforting
and thanks for telling me im an idiot because i didnt yell at u for no reason
and thank for making me seem like those other people who use u for ur brain

am i in the wrong for yelling at her and telling her no? because she still brings it up a lot and makes me feel bad. But i’m not even sure i’m to blame. Am i?

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