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I’m afraid of guys for some reason.

No I’m not a teenager and yes I’ve had boyfriends, but I always had to have several drinks around them before being comfortable kissing them or even cuddling them the first few times. I’m kind of paranoid they’re gonna screw me over, and that they’re only after one thing and only see me as the sum of my parts. I don’t like the thought of them looking at me as attractive. But if I drink for the first while I can bury that feeling a bit and forget its there.

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Snar offline Verified User (5 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 73 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

Hey,

I have the same reverse problem. Goes to show you its not a gender thing, its a people thing.

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (34 minutes after post)

Yeah same here lol only ever kissed my ex when I was smashed ahaha IDK if that’s a bad thing or not some people just aren’t overtly confident.

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9 months, 2 weeks ago (42 minutes after post)

Snar wrote:
Hey,

I have the same reverse problem. Goes to show you its not a gender thing, its a people thing.

Really? That’s kinda reassuring I guess.

trentlover20 wrote:
Yeah same here lol only ever kissed my ex when I was smashed ahaha IDK if that’s a bad thing or not some people just aren’t overtly confident.

Maybe? I feel like there’s something wrong with me though. I haven’t met anyone who’s admitted to being this way anyway. And now there’s someone interested in me and I’m all freaked out about it

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9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

you sound like Raj from Big Bang Theory

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Snar offline Verified User (5 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 73 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 10 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
you sound like Raj from Big Bang Theory

You do not bring Chuck Lorre and his nonsense into my house sir! No!

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9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
you sound like Raj from Big Bang Theory

thanks.

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 58 minutes after post)

Snar wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
you sound like Raj from Big Bang Theory

You do not bring Chuck Lorre and his nonsense into my house sir! No!

lol that is not nonsense, big bang is genius.

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trentlover20 offline Verified User (11 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 39 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
Maybe? I feel like there’s something wrong with me though. I haven’t met anyone who’s admitted to being this way anyway. And now there’s someone interested in me and I’m all freaked out about it

Exactly how I felt lol, i don’t think there’s anything wrong with it a lot of girls kiss guys when they’re drunk coz they feel overly confident, a girl on Geordie Shore kissed 50 guys in one night lmfao it’s all part of being young and carefree, just enjoy having a bf and don’t worry too much about the little things :)

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9 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 48 minutes after post)

but what I’m saying is I don’t enjoy it… but what else are people supposed to do but be in relationships?

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (3 hours, 2 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
but what I’m saying is I don’t enjoy it… but what else are people supposed to do but be in relationships?

not everyone does - maybe you will meet someone who doesn’t like it either? the odds are likely you will, I mean, there are 3.5 billion available people. (the other half of the worlds population is in china I think)

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (3 hours, 14 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
but what I’m saying is I don’t enjoy it… but what else are people supposed to do but be in relationships?

You shouldn’t feel forced to be in a relationship, you need to think about what you want and how you feel.

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