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I just broke up with my boyfriend of 1 year and four months.

Do you have someone in your life that just gets you and know what you need without you even saying a word? Someone who would do anything for you no matter what? Well I did and it’s so weird not to have it anymore. We had been fighting a lot about stupid things (we were drunk during most of our big fights) and then the day after his bday he invited a bunch of his high school friends who he hadn’t seen all summer to his house for a party.

I never really got along with them and the day before I had found out that my Dad might have a serious health problem and I was freaking out. So at the party I tried talking to people but they wouldn’t really include me I guess because they hadn’t seen eachother in so long. Long story short, I decide to go home because I was just so scared and sad about my issues and then my boyfriend got mad me for leaving his party. I didn’t want to hurt him, I was just going through so much. So then he wouldn’t communicate with me for a few days and we ended up breaking up, but when he came to my house to talk about our relationship, he was only going to stay for 10 minutes. Then I convinced him to come in to watch tv and we ended up hooking up and talking about us for almost four hours….

We both still want to be best friends and he promised that I would never lose him in my life.

I know that this breakup is what is best for him (his grades weren’t too good his first year in college) and I love him and want him to do well. At the same time, I miss him so much and I can’t imagine ever being as close to someone as we were. I just want him to always be in my life. He texted me the next morning saying that we shouldn’t talk for a few days but that he be here if he needed me and that we were still best friends. Then we said I love you to eachother and I haven’t talked to him since Monday. Should I wait for him to contact me or should I contact him?

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crystalsandsand 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 36 minutes after post)

I suppose wait for him to contact you. I don’t really understand why he needs space, a relationship doesn’t sound like a decent excuse to me for poor grades, but maybe if you give it to him, he’ll come around.
And if you give it to him and he doesn’t care… maybe it’s not as perfect a relationship as you thought.
I mean honestly I don’t understand from what you’ve said why ye broke up.

I suppose wait for him to contact you. I don't really understand why he needs space, a relationship doesn't sound like a decent excuse to me for poor grades, but maybe if you give it to him, he'll come around. And if you give it to him and he doesn't care... maybe it's not as perfect a relationship as you thought. I mean honestly I don't understand from what you've said why ye broke up.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 58 minutes after post)

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walid.fatim 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (3 hours after post)

To me , leaving the party is not a problem that leads to the breakup
there must be something else, but time always helps in like this situation
just because sooner or later he will contact you.

To me , leaving the party is not a problem that leads to the breakup there must be something else, but time always helps in like this situation just because sooner or later he will contact you.

The Sherlockian 38 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (3 hours, 56 minutes after post)

Call him and say, “I just wanted to tell you that I’m sorry I left your party early. I was worried about my father, and all of you had so much catching up to do. I’m sorry, though, that I gave you the impression that I didn’t care enough about you to stay–because I love you very much.”

And stop getting drunk. It alters people’s personalities. And it’s not you and he talking–it’s two other people.

Call him and good luck!

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Call him and say, "I just wanted to tell you that I'm sorry I left your party early. I was worried about my father, and all of you had so much catching up to do. I'm sorry, though, that I gave you the impression that I didn't care enough about you to stay--because I love you very much." And stop getting drunk. It alters people's personalities. And it's not you and he talking--it's two other people. Call him and good luck!

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ich 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (13 hours, 57 minutes after post)

well… I think leaving his party is not a proper reason for breaking up with s.o. after so much time, it might have been your fights while being drunk. I think you should apologize him for leaving his party though and explain him the reason. but it might be better not to do it instantly, give him some time to think with himself, he may be ready to accept your apology later not now…
good luck :)

well... I think leaving his party is not a proper reason for breaking up with s.o. after so much time, it might have been your fights while being drunk. I think you should apologize him for leaving his party though and explain him the reason. but it might be better not to do it instantly, give him some time to think with himself, he may be ready to accept your apology later not now... good luck :)

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (14 hours, 44 minutes after post)

Thank you all for the replies, I appreciate it :)

I apologized sooooo much and he says its all in the past now. My friends think it was his parents who encouraged him to break up with me. I texted him yesterday saying “do you still promise you’ll always be in my life?” and he said yes and that Id never lose him and that I was his best friend. His parents made him break up with me when we were sophomores in highschool too because he had too many bad things going on in his life and that’s kind of what is happening now. They’re having financial issues and other things. They don’t think I caused his bad grades, they just want him to focus…..but he is in a fraternity in school lol

Thank you all for the replies, I appreciate it :) I apologized sooooo much and he says its all in the past now. My friends think it was his parents who encouraged him to break up with me. I texted him yesterday saying "do you still promise you'll always be in my life?" and he said yes and that Id never lose him and that I was his best friend. His parents made him break up with me when we were sophomores in highschool too because he had too many bad things going on in his life and that's kind of what is happening now. They're having financial issues and other things. They don't think I caused his bad grades, they just want him to focus.....but he is in a fraternity in school lol

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