Okay so I am really looking for some advice or suggestions…
Currently I have a very new bf, we ave been together a little over a month. My ex and I separated 5 months ago. I still love him but I am feeling very confused at the moment. My ex recently told me that her still loves me and always will. I did not reply to it because I do not want to send him mixed feelings and he has hurt me so badly. He said that he wants us to go get help. I didn’t really respond only to tell him that he has a lot going on and that I think he needs to put his focus on those thing rather then me. This is the man that I thought I would spend my life with. He has mention this before scene we have broken up but I really didn’t answer he then either. The reason I didn’t answer is because before we broke up I pretty much bagged him for use to go for concealing for use and he didn’t. I had told him that I wanted to see actions not just empty words. I felt I did my share by getting the referral and is was up to him to set up the appointment. He never did so we separated. I never responded because I feel like if that is what he want then he should set it up. Maybe I am being unfair but during the last while in the relationship I felt like I was doing everything on my own. should I expect that he should just know this? A lot of things have happened scene we broke up and as much as I love him I do not trust him, because he hurt me. I know trust can be build again and takes time but I am unsure if I can forgive him or not. I feel like if he took full responsibility for his action that I maybe able to.
This is what I am wondering….. Should I break it off with the new bf? Things have moved much faster then I wanted because I wanted to take it slow. My new bf is starting to have feelings for me. Should I send my ex clarification? Should I give the counseling a chance? Or should I just move on? New bf is amazing and I don’t want to hurt him.
I recently left work on a medical leave because of everything and my body worn down……. I was literally sick over him having spent 8 years with him….
I really don’t know what to do :s
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