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My best friend and I are growing apart.
I’m leaving for college this year. She’s been my best friend since preschool, but now we’re growing apart. It really started more in middle school, but we were still close, and in high school it got harder because I went to a different school. But we still found time to hang out with each other and talk. Then we started hanging out less and less, but when we did it was still like we always were.
In the past year or so though, it’s like we’re not even really friends. We see each other once or twice a week usually, because we both belong to an organization that meets. But we don’t talk aside from saying hi. I can’t remember the last time we had a real conversation. We used to talk constantly, almost every day. She doesn’t tell me what’s going on with her life and doesn’t ask me about mine. I try to text her sometimes but she just gives me one word answers, if she responds at all. I guess she feels the same way I do, but I wish she’d at least try to talk to me.
Even though we don’t have all that much in common anymore, I still want to be friends with her. Although I think part of that is just because we’ve been friends for so long that I don’t want to lose that.
It really hurts to think that in a few weeks we’ll probably never see each other again. I mean, we grew up together. We were always with each other when we were little. There are so many memories… I don’t know if I should see if she wants to hang out and talk, or what. To me it feels like she doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore. Which I guess is okay, I’m not sure how much I expected any of my old friendships to last through college, but I just want to talk about everything with her like we used to.
What should I do? Try to keep the friendship going, or move on?
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