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My best friend and I are growing apart.

I’m leaving for college this year. She’s been my best friend since preschool, but now we’re growing apart. It really started more in middle school, but we were still close, and in high school it got harder because I went to a different school. But we still found time to hang out with each other and talk. Then we started hanging out less and less, but when we did it was still like we always were.

In the past year or so though, it’s like we’re not even really friends. We see each other once or twice a week usually, because we both belong to an organization that meets. But we don’t talk aside from saying hi. I can’t remember the last time we had a real conversation. We used to talk constantly, almost every day. She doesn’t tell me what’s going on with her life and doesn’t ask me about mine. I try to text her sometimes but she just gives me one word answers, if she responds at all. I guess she feels the same way I do, but I wish she’d at least try to talk to me.

Even though we don’t have all that much in common anymore, I still want to be friends with her. Although I think part of that is just because we’ve been friends for so long that I don’t want to lose that.

It really hurts to think that in a few weeks we’ll probably never see each other again. I mean, we grew up together. We were always with each other when we were little. There are so many memories… I don’t know if I should see if she wants to hang out and talk, or what. To me it feels like she doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore. Which I guess is okay, I’m not sure how much I expected any of my old friendships to last through college, but I just want to talk about everything with her like we used to.

What should I do? Try to keep the friendship going, or move on?

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AdamG offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

“Friends are like flowers in the garden of life” (Proverbs). Cherish her and take her out to coffee before you go off to college. The distance between you will seem much smaller with the internet etc.

What is the motive to “move on?”

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 29 minutes after post)

You may take paths that diverge, but you can still be friends.

Friends are much to valuable to ever throw away.

Take the initiative to rekindle your friendship!

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (3 hours after post)

If u really want the friendship to carry on, explain how u feel to her, meet up and tell her! if shes still not having it then unfortunately you are at that stage of your life where everyone goes in different directions. Id say embrace that, thats what i did, you will meet new people, more suited to you and your interests and just enjoy that experience.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day, 8 hours after post)

I had a similar thing happen to me last year. We’ve been friends since preschool and she left for college while i stayed and went to a nearby community college. She made a lot of new friends, and I still haven’t because of different circumstances. Let her know that you value your friendship with her, and I’m sure she will agree.
A lot of times, this is were you will grow apart from friends you’ve known for almost your entire life. I only have 3 people I stay in contact with. Just talk to her and dont worry about it. Youll most likely remain friends, and youll make tons of new ones this year. have fun!

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