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First step: Boost your very low self-esteem!
 
“How to increase your self-esteem”:
http://www.mind.org.uk/help/diagnoses…

“Six Behaviors that Increase Self-Esteem”:
http://www.changeforgood.com/articles…

“Boost your self-image with these 5 steps”:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/self…

“Self Esteem Affirmations” · Tutorial:
http://www.wiziq.com/tutorial/63505-S…

“Developing Self Confidence”:
http://www.wiziq.com/tutorial/28204-D…

“How to Improve Self Confidence, Self Esteem and Overcome Fear of Rejection”:
http://sofs.hubpages.com/hub/Building…
 
 
Next:

“How to Make Friends”:
http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Friends

“50 Ways to Meet people and Make New Friends”:
http://researchanalyst.hubpages.com/h…

“25 Places To Meet New People”:
http://www.essortment.com/25-places-m…

“How to keep friendship?”:
http://peoplerelationships.syl.com/es…

“10 Ways To Keep Your Friendship Strong”:
http://losu.org/relations/10-ways-to-…

Well, Jacob, here’s what I see: you have an extremely low opinion of yourself. You don’t think your ideas or viewpoints are worth sharing, so you don’t say very much. You don’t think you’re worth having as a friend, so you don’t try to make friends. You think you’re an inferior human being, and you feel that you are too inferior for anyone to like you. You felt bad in the 9th grade, and you gave into those feelings. You didn’t realize that not every thought that comes into the human mind should not be acted upon. You felt that giving up was an option. It wasn’t!

Now you are suffering the consequences of your negativity and your giving up. No wonder you are feeling bad!

So what to do? Well, I’m going to suggest therapy. You need to talk to your parents about getting you set up with a therapist. But at no time can you delegate responsibility for your “recovery” to a therapist. The therapist can suggest things, but YOU have to actually do them!

You need to start out by realizing that you are a child of God who has a part to play in a plan that was devised before the foundations of this world were laid. You need to realize that you are a worthwhile human being who has worthwhile thoughts and ideas that should be shared with others. You need to realize that you are just as capable of making a positive impact on this world as any of your peers.

Fat? Then diet and EXERCISE. You’ll feel 15 times better when you whip your body into shape. Why carry around health-destroying fat on your body? Get rid of it, just like you get rid of negative thoughts in your mind!

Feel confident about yourself. Be a friend to others and you’ll make friends.

Do this online thing and work to get back into a regular school. You MAY have depression, and you MAY need some meds . . . but you do not GIVE IN to depression! Just as a runner in a marathon doesn’t GIVE IN to his/her tiredness and aching muscles, you don’t GIVE IN to depression or negative feelings!

By the way, lots of successful people have depression. But the reason that they’re successful is that they do NOT give in to it! They see their doctors, and they see their therapists, and they take responsibility for making themselves into decent human beings!

You also need to find out where your true passions lie. Are they in writing, or science, or some other subject? Find out! Find out what you really like to do, and make it a life goal to have that passion as a hobby or as your main line of work!

Make a plan for your life . . . college, work, volunteer activities. Be sure you give something back to the society that has nurtured and cared for you!

And never, ever give in to negativity again!

Thankfully for you, all your problems are solvable.
People have no reason to like someone who doesn’t like himself. Why, I’d begin to believe he must have a reason not to like himself, I’d best avoid him.
Learn to love yourself, without defining yourself by your popularity. Here is a quote by Roald Dahl and I believe he has a good point:
“If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it.
A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”

The way I see you, you only have one problem and that one problem is causing all your other problems.
Your problem is that when things aren’t going your way, your blame who you are.
News flash for you: Who you are is what you do.
Instead of blaming who you are, do. Identify your individual problems and get creative.
Think of solutions and strategies instead of falling into despair and your worst enemy: inaction.

Humans are unique in their ability to adapt and change. Our ability to problem solve is what allow us to bypass evolution.
You’re 15. Change is right around the corner. But your situation won’t change unless you do.

Oh and by the way. I’ll let you in on a secret. Everyone your age is having problems. And I mean everyone. Even the guy who has everything is insecure in one way or another.
And another inspirational quote I just thought of:
“Success isn’t only defined by where you are when you finish. It’s also defined by where you were when you started.”

Jacob how sad it is that you have had such a sad life. But, do you think that maybe it’s just because you won’t allow good things to happen to you? Anyway, one can’t undo the past so there is no point going over it.

I would suggest you offload your baggage right here and now and that you can do by writing out all that has been bad in your life, reading it and then putting it into a bonfire or shredder and destroying it and along with that saying to yourself, “this part of my life is over and from now on I am only going to be happy”.

Every day when you get up say to yourself that “today is the happiest day of your life”. When anyone asks how you are always say “terrific”, “fabulous”, “great” - anything positive and you will be amazed at how good you will start to feel. when you feel good about yourself, you will attract others to you.

And, is’nt it wonderful now-a-days you don’t even need to leave your room to make friends, just make sure that the friends you make on the net are who they say they are. You can do that by using Skype or some such thing, so you can actually see whom it is that you are talking to. Chin up Jacob, there’s a wonderful world out there and you are a very important part of it.:)

the true epitome of awfulness. bravo, u said it all. heres a challenge for you.. speak of all thats well.. question is will you stop there no??? sucks to be you too!

All the best of wishes for you that New Year may bring a change for you and that your life really picks up for the better. Just know that ups and downs will always be there in life, to challenge us to grow. Take it as a challenge and refuse to be defeated. That’s what winners are made off. We all have winners within ourselves, we just need to let them out. Go for 2013 being the turning point in your life — for the better.:)