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Is it jealousy, or just feeling left out?
My siblings and I are all adult. Our parents are retired. All of my sisters have gone on vacations with my mother, but I’ve never been invited, even when I mentioned that I’d like to go. She vacations almost every summer. All of my nieces and nephews have been on trips with her, but not my own children. They have been to all the places and done all the things that I’ve dreamed of doing. My mom also visits my siblings at their houses, and has never visited me at my house. Two of my sisters live farther away from her than I do, and those are the two that she visits most frequently.
I don’t like this feeling that I have - I don’t know if I am feeling unreasonably jealous, or if it is justified, but either way there isn’t really anything I can do to change the situation. It has been this way for twenty years or more. I just don’t want to feel this way when I look at their family vacation photos and see that there are none of me and my children.
Other than this one thing, my parents are great. They treated me well as a child, and usually provide emotional support when I need it. I think my mother is embarassed to be seen with us - my oldest son is developmentally delayed and acts much younger than his age, though he looks perfectly normal. (Yes, I sometimes wish he looked different so people wouldn’t assume he is just badly behaved.) And I don’t care one bit about fashion and do not have a lot of money so I don’t dress nearly as well as my mother or sisters.
So how can I get past this? How can I continue to have a good relationship with my parents and siblings without feeling jealous?
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