Family help: Why am I constantly being treated like a moron by almost everyone ? - Help.com

So it’s the world vs you. People will treat you like crap if you give them a reason to. As in, if you let people get you down without putting up a fight, they will keep putting you down, over and over again. You’ve got to stand up for yourself. This is your life - will you always be blaming others for your misery of will you take charge and change things for the better?

You can waste a lifetime blaming people for everything that is wrong in your life but it is YOUR life and only you can change it. So what are you waiting for?

So ignore them. If they give you hassle, brush it off. If talking to them and standing up for yourself that way only makes them retaliate harder then you need to learn how to not give a sh*t what they say or do to you. Like I said, if people know you are weak, or spot a weakness, they will exploit it (if they are that kind of person). Be strong and show no weakness to them.

A high IQ is not a measurement of Intelligence, a high IQ only means you have watched an awful lot of TV a have accumulated a great deal of background facts and figures.
True inelegance is the ability to hold a meaningful conversation without making anyone uncomfortable.

And yes that is true. IQ is not a real measure of intelligence. It measures some forms but not others. Having a high IQ isn’t bad, though, but it’s not the be all and end all.

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FatB.Three wrote:
A high IQ is not a measurement of Intelligence, a high IQ only means you have watched an awful lot of TV a have accumulated a great deal of background facts and figures.
True inelegance is the ability to hold a meaningful conversation without making anyone uncomfortable.

No it isnt. O__o they dont do anything on an IQ test relating to tv and i already know IQ scores arent that accurate but im able to solve complex real life problems with ease. I hold long conversations without anyone being uncomforatable…. and thats EQ not IQ.

And you wonder why people do not want to talk to you!

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sum wrote:
IM SICK OF THIS ********….. **** EVERYONE…

Such language from someone who has a high IQ.

respect ?

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why post on help.com if you only acknowledge replies that p*ss you off and discount the rest from people who are trying to help. You are seeking negativity. And you will forever attract negativity if that is all you respond to, and all you care to consider.

No amount of positive replies on this website from people who care will help you. You need to WANT to help yourself. Right now you are totally defeatist. You can change that, but do you really want to? Or do you want some magical cure?

Why am I constantly being treated like a moron by almost everyone ?

Self-esteem. You have to work on it every day. Year after year you keep up with some of the most negatively pathetic attitudes toward self I’ve seen. You’re right that you’re intelligent and have other high qualities but your own self-despising or emotional dramas toward yourself and others are so extreme that one reply turned me completely away the other day — and it’s not really different attitudes than a couple years ago. You need to work on psychotherapy, whether with real counselors or through self-help strategies.

Seems to me you have a severe lack of self esteem and are just looking for an excuse to feel sorry for yourself. Again.

Suicide is NOT the answer. Never is and never will be. Course if you’ve already done yourself in, this is a moot point.

And if you think this will somehow make you out to be a martyr you are so so wrong. So dead wrong.

You keep blaming people. You keep saying that others bring you down, that they force you to have low self-esteem, they treat you this way or that way. There is a total lack of control on your part in your replies. YOU have control over your emotions, your actions and your life. People don’t - YOU DO.

Maybe you aren’t trying to feel sorry for yourself, but regardless of your intentions that is exactly what you are doing.

Will you read this and think I am criticizing you, or trying to help you? Because nobody here has criticized you outright (Fat.B didn’t help much however).

Good helpers - people who really care and understand what best action for you there is to take - will not come onto a post like this and have a pity party with you. We will try to help you. And the best way that anybody could help you given your mental state is to give you a wake up call, as best as we can.

Now IGNORE all the negative replies you get on your posts. You can do that easily. Don’t waste yours or our time by trying to correct us on otherwise unimportant issues, and pay attention to what we do say that is constructive and helpful. Do this from now on. There is nothing more offputing than for someone to come here and reply to you trying to help to only have their advice largely ignored. It makes it seem like you don’t care about getting better. Do you understand that?

Okay. Now, no pity parties. What can YOU DO, right now, and in future, to better your situation? Think of what practical steps and measures you can take that will help you. If you have problems with people bringing you down, how can you fix this? One way is to stand up for yourself. Yes, you can do this even if it doesn’t force them to back down. That’s what standing up for yourself means. You stand your ground no matter what people say.

You can ignore them. That is simple. People’s words will only affect you so much if you place high importance in what they say. Yes, you will hear their words and it may temporarily affect you. But don’t allow them to fester. You have control over this.

Are you working? Earning your own money? People have worked menial jobs, hard labour, to get somewhere in life. If you can’t get a high paying job, start from the bottom and work your way up. Nothing worth having ever came easy - you need to cultivate a hard working mentality to get what you want out of life if nobody will or can help you.

What other steps can you think of now that you could take to help your situation? More exercise? Better diet? Think of some and tell us here. Be pro-active! And we will advise you and help you as best as we can.

Your way to talk to people — also here on help.com — is that much strange, my dear!
You shouldn’t be surprised at the way you’re perceived.
First of all YOU have to change YOUR attitude towards other people, then people will change their attitude towards you as well.

Really, your self-esteem seems to be at its ground level.
It’s the wrong way to put the blame on others.
 
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