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PLEASE HELP URGENT(GIRLFRIEND)

So my girlfriend has been depressed over the past few days…she always want to stay alone.

I want to make her feel better…I Really do, but i am frustrated that she has neglected me over the past few days…. I have really strong feelings for this girl, and I’ve loved her since the first time we hung out(I haven’t told her this yet)…

I don’t know what to do…..Shes coming over in less than an hour, and i’m torn between talking to her about how shes neglecting me and possibly ending things, or confessing my love to her and doing something so she feels destressed.

can you guys please help me.

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DANTHEMAN offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

hmmm very dificult. if you confess she may get mad or it masy help ease her down. if you comfort her and not confess u may miss a good chance but also ease her in a more possible way. seems you must pick one but whichever you pick YOU MUST BE SUDLE!!!! that seems to be the best way of making things calm. try cheering her up in any way

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Tantalus offline Verified User (3 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

The best thing you can ever do for someone who feels depressed is to just let them know that you are there and prepared to listen.

You certainly don’t want to put more pressure on her by dramatically revealing love for her, but you certainly can tell her you have strong feelings for her and want to make her feel better. But make that the smaller part of what you say:

Reassurance you will listen to her is the key.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

I may take her to the beach…and gradually try and make her feel better…. I certainly dont want to pure more stress or pressure. Im just confused should i confess? Should i threaten to cut it off if she doesnt start caring for me…..idk

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DANTHEMAN offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

you shouldnt cut it off. shes probably so confused about stuff going on in her life that she has not the time to think. my house pluming has issues yestuday then the a/c broke and the heat got to my mom so bad she was crying. i didnt have any milk left but i delt with it ragther than asking her to get milk and give her another thing to worry about. then the car broke down…….yestuday was a bad days

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Tantalus offline Verified User (3 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

Well, you could always say that you are prepared to do what she needs to help her regardless.

As for a more serious relationship, then you can tell her straight what it is you need from her. Ask her to honestly say if she feels she is ready at this stage in her life. If not then just stay a supportive friend for now.

And really… Good luck to you!

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9 months, 3 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

how about just hanging out with her and not discussing anything permanent? just have fun, relax, do nothing if that’s what she wants to do, crack a joke here or there, take a walk, share ice cream, you know, real casual stuff

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Positivemessylove offline Verified User (11 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 28 minutes after post)

just tell her the truth: that you are worried about her! ask her if she’s okay, if she can handle a relationship right now, if things are just too hard for her.
you would be the best boyfriend ever if you told her “I really care about you, but if you need some space then I can be there for you as a boyfriend or a friend, whatever you need. And when things get better, I’ll still be there for you.”

It would mean a lot to her, I think.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (6 days, 5 hours after post)

chillout, dont talk about her negitivitedy. put poor ur hearrt out to her make her feel awesome, it could posibily help. worth a shot?

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