friends help: why the hell would he ever want to be with her? - Help.com

seasonsoflove7 wrote:
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I could never tell you why guys find that attractive. Maybe she’s sweet? vulnerable? innocent/easy to be with? Or maybe they’re just going through that initial attraction phase when you don’t notice all the annoying things the other person does. Either way, you’re not going to feel better being angry about this all the time.
He is your friend just be happy for him and stay out of her way. You don’t have to like her, just tolerate her.
…do you have a crush on him?

she acts innocent and vulnerable, i think theyve been together just over a year and theyve just move in together. and yeah i have a crush on him, and he acts like he does on me too, he flirts like crazy and it drives me mad. i hate it, why flirt like he does when he doesnt want to be with me? its not fair on me or his kid.

seasonsoflove7 wrote:
Kid as in the girl or literally he has a child?

If they’ve been together this long then he probably really likes her. How long can a guy be with someone yet still be waiting for something else to come along you know?

How does he flirt with you, maybe he’s just being nice? Some people are just natural flirts and they do it to everyone. That doesn’t mean it’s ok though. Have you tried asking him how he feels about her?

kid as in his gf. idk, like i put a status on fb asking if anyone wanted to get a flat share with me. 10 mins later hes texting me saying he will and but id never get any sleep coz he’d always be all over me. asking what my ex had the he doesnt stuff like that, he always calls me gorgeous and beautiful and says he misses me and always texts. he doesnt have to do those things, thats why it confuses me. and he always tell me that she drives him a bit insane, he actually said she infuriates him. but i guess he likes the cute pukey stuff she comes out with

she wrote this on his wall: ‘Say I’m a bird, Say I’m a bird! … Your a bird … Now say your a bird too! Say it! … If your a bird I’m a bird :’) love you handsome ♥’

seriously? guys like that? think i might start acting like a 5 year old, i might get a guy then

seasonsoflove7 wrote:
It’s unfair that he flirts with you like that and yet he’s been with this girl for a little over a year now. Some guys get a kick from having multiple girls on their radar so they know they have options. I think what’s best for you is to remove yourself from the situation and see what he does. You like the attention so you hang around but honestly? If he’s like this with her now how would he act if you guys ever got together?

there was a point about 2 months ago when it got too much, he said any guy would be mad not to leave his gf for me and i said yeah you would, he sent back a smiley, so he knows i like him, i didnt talk to him for a while after that but he still insisted on talking to me, he always comes over and has a chat.

i want him but i dont, we went out sometime back for drinks in town and he admitted he has cheated on girls in the past. he always says be with the last one you fall for. he said he’d never cheat on her, but i know he has. and i dont want to be with him coz i know he’d cheat on me. i know this is just coz i feel alone right now. and my pure hatred of her for the fact that she tells everyone she hates me.

seasonsoflove7 wrote:
Whatever she does has nothing to do with you. You reacting to her just gives her more satisfaction that she’s getting to you. And she wants to get to you for the same reason you hate her- the guy in the middle. Maybe he talks about you all the time to her and she’s infuriated by it. Who knows? Either way this guy is real poison. Be open-minded about your friends yeah but why would you ever want to date a guy you know for fact would cheat on you while you’ve witnessed him cheating on other girls before(and right now!)? The loneliness will pass, try to focus on getting a guy that’s good to you, as long as you’re still on about this one you’ll keep convincing yourself that you want him.

i know, like i said its coz im lonely, and i do fancy the pants off him but i would be with him. its just hard to meet a guy

The Sherlockian wrote:
These guys at your workplace have a case of terminal flirtatiousness.

Yours must be the most libidinous workplace in the world!

its one big incestuous family. thats what you get when you work in a **** area of northern england, i think we all need to go on jeremy kyle