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Can you give me a proper perspective of my situation please? I am in my 30’s. I have worked since I was in my 20’s. But I have felt that I haven’t learned anything or master anything. I worked in the government, and it is more relaxed as compared to private firms. I have worked in two government offices, and the results have been the same. What should I prefer, security over passion? But the thing is, I think I haven’t found what I am passionate about, I have no solid idea at all. I have finished two college degrees, yet I am still at lost.

Not to mention the psychological aspect of it, I am depressed again. For the second time, in my life, I am on severe depression brought about by my work (which had happened before). I only “snap out of it” by getting another job. And with it comes the excitement to work, look good again (as I have lost so much weight) and the confidence that I can accomplish something. Now I am back to where I have began. And it totally sucks. Especially the “hopelessness/helplessness” of the situation, as I perceive it to be. Help please.

I have no idea about psychotherapist or psychiatrist really. I don’t have the money since lately I have not been earning much, and I couldn’t just talk it out to them, as I can write it out here. I am a lazy couch potato who continues to hang out at home, doing nothing and basically unproductive. I drift day to day, without a firm resolve to live the best possible life I could live and imagine. I have no significant other, nor children, and that get’s me into thinking that maybe, if only I have some responsibilities of my own, maybe I could have done my very best. I procured two personal loans to get me inspired, strong and hard working to no avail. Now, I am just spending it for my basic needs, and for the payment of the loans. But how can I have a partner and children, if I can’t even take care of my basic self?!

I am a baptized and practicing Catholic. But these trying times of my life, I feel that my prayers simply bounce off the wall and the ceiling. I need a miracle in my life now. Please pray for me.

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monkichirmo 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

taking out loans you don’t need(i assume) so you can have some kind of responsibility is ….well it’s the first time i’ve ever heard of someone doing that for that sole purpose. i would recommend paying them back so you won’t add debt to your list. if you want responsibility, why don’t you get a pet. if you’re doing nothing with your time why not volunteer somewhere. you say you can choose between security or passion, and since you seem to have passion for nothing it’s not really a choice you have to make right now.

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Dyal 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

You are in Pain ? Good Growth requires pain. Be patient and tough, someday this pain will be useful to you. Those with the strength to succeed in the long run are the ones who lay a firm foundation of growth with the bricks that life has thrown at them. So don’t be afraid to fall apart for a little while. Because when it happens, the situation will open an opportunity for you to grow and rebuild yourself into the brilliant person you are capable of being. I`m also doing nothing these days. All i`m doing is applying for jobs and for exams for jobs. Be Patient Goodness will come to you soon Brother. :)

There is no stage of life that does not contain new lessons. As long as you live there will be something more to learn. And as long as you follow your heart and never stop learning, you’ll turn not older, but newer every day.

And find out something you love to do. Find a work you love to do that’s your true Passion.
Pain is temporary Everything will be alright :)

Good Luck.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 38 minutes after post)

You should do something to get out of your routine. Maybe join a singles group that does activities once or twice a month. Also like said above get a pet (dogs are good since it will require you to go for walks and you may even make friends at a dog park if you have one it the area. You need to step out of your box you have constructed. Ask your self what you have always wanted to try or to do but were to afraid or shy to do. It’s easy to live within our bubble. No matter where you live there are groups of people who meet up for different reasons, religion, hobbies, other interests, etc.. Find something you are interested in and give it a shot.

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IrAdler 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (4 hours, 6 minutes after post)

I agree with 2 dogs that you have to get out of your comfort zone. Maybe you want to consider working for a private firm or company for a change and feel more competitive than feeling comfortable in a government job. Also, find activities in your church you can do that is fulfilling for you like volunteering to help to do something, going on a mission to other countries, doing a food drive or something for poor people etc. etc. What about programs you can meet someone at your church? The examples are endless.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (7 hours, 23 minutes after post)

Dear Op

Have a listen to his video. Now you don’t have to buy the products he sells, I haven’t but just listen to suggestions to get to thinking about a way forward with your life and explore all the speaker on YouTube’s ideas. Tony’s ideas are other people’s but they are effective nonetheless.

So get a note book and pen and write down his strategies. Good luck, I hope it inspires you.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLu-qY…

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MarlinTheFish 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (9 hours, 55 minutes after post)

lots of good advice here so far.

no one can tell you how to be happy. it doesn’t really work like that.

but you are depressed and when you are depressed, *everything* feels hopeless. so are you truly hopeless or is that the depression talking?

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Chunkymoves 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (3 days, 23 hours after post)

Were your parents catholic?

Sooo many things about that sort of upbringing can get you muddled in life.

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Chunkymoves 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (3 days, 23 hours after post)

Do you have a sense of self? Do you feel conflicted deep down about stuff? Are you comfortable feeling anger and lust? Are you able to get drunk, let go and have a good time?

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,.,.,.,. edited this post 9 months, 1 week ago. Read the previous text »

Can you give me a proper perspective of my situation please? I am in my 30’s. I have worked since I was in my 20’s. But I have felt that I haven’t learned anything or master anything. I worked in the government, and it is more relaxed as compared to private firms. I have worked in two government offices, and the results have been the same. What should I prefer, security over passion? But the thing is, I think I haven’t found what I am passionate about, I have no solid idea at all. I have finished two college degrees, yet I am still at lost.

Not to mention the psychological aspect of it, I am depressed again. For the second time, in my life, I am on severe depression brought about by my work (which had happened before). I only “snap out of it” by getting another job. And with it comes the excitement to work, look good again (as I have lost so much weight) and the confidence that I can accomplish something. Now I am back to where I have began. And it totally sucks. Especially the “hopelessness/helplessness” of the situation, as I perceive it to be. Help please.

I have no idea about psychotherapist or psychiatrist really. I don’t have the money since lately I have not been earning much, and I couldn’t just talk it out to them, as I can write it out here. I am a lazy couch potato who continues to hang out at home, doing nothing and basically unproductive. I drift day to day, without a firm resolve to live the best possible life I could live and imagine. I have no significant other, nor children, and that get’s me into thinking that maybe, if only I have some responsibilities of my own, maybe I could have done my very best. I procured two personal loans to get me inspired, strong and hard working to no avail. Now, I am just spending it for my basic needs, and for the payment of the loans. But how can I have a partner and children, if I can’t even take care of my basic self?!

I am a baptized and practicing Catholic. But these trying times of my life, I feel that my prayers simply bounce off the wall and the ceiling. I need a miracle in my life now. Please pray for me.

I promise myself not to repeat the same mistakes again, yet here I am again in the same predicament and situation as before.

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