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People who don’t attempt to make people around them as at ease and comfort able aren’t socially mature. I think you can pretty much just use secure in place of that term though. People should try harder to help each other out, but they’re all fighting their own battles :)

It is because people are socially insecure and they don’t want others to become more socially adept than them and so they try to keep others down to build themselves up. You will find this is an epidemic in offices. People try to make you look stupid thinking it makes them look smarter in the bosses eyes… it’s a dog eat dog world.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DmI8ms…

Honestly, I think Ralph is right. People use other people’s weaknesses as a way to control them. I’ve ran into a couple of people who tried to go out of their way to help me, usually total strangers. But most either don’t care enough or rather have me ignorant.

If I can take all humankind history and shrink it into a one single conclusion:
- Humans are stupid.

in two conclusions:
- Humans are stupid.
- Humans always been stupid.

in three conclusions:
- Humans are stupid.
- Humans always been stupid.
- Humans tend to belive they are smart.

No, people don’t make it easier for you in social situations, I agree. It’s like a thing I guess it makes that person feel smarter or like they have the upper hand in the conversation so they don’t have to try as much. I think deep down everyone is a little insecure about that.
I detest when people use that tone with you as if you’re the biggest dummy in the world, like, no.

This is so true in all aspect’s of life. Unfortunantly it carry’s over into relationship’s as well! Where one is constantly belittling the other one and criticising all the time. If they can make even their own spouse look and feel bad it makes them feel better about themself’s. It’s sad…but happen’s every where. You can easily pick out ppl on here that are like that!

Dr. Ralph wrote:
It is because people are socially insecure and they don’t want others to become more socially adept than them and so they try to keep others down to build themselves up. You will find this is an epidemic in offices. People try to make you look stupid thinking it makes them look smarter in the bosses eyes… it’s a dog eat dog world.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DmI8ms…

I agree with the others. I went to dinner with a “long-term, committed boyfriend who was always insecure when next to my “light”. Anyways this joker was the kind of guy who let me eat with the wrong utinsil and didn’t say a word. I didn’t realize my error until he requested the correct utinsil for “himself”. I had a “Oh” moment. With that kind of relationship I think he could have said something because he certainly didnt hesitate on anything else he felt justified about no matter what. On the flip side I informed a co-worker who laid on the table to napp with her shoes off that that might not be appropriate because we all put our food there during lunch (it’s the only table we have) and during potlucks and I didn’t mention the people who can’t use the table at all during her “napp”. She justified the action and said she would continue to do so. I threw up my hands insurrender because I tried to tell her and her behavior was clearly wrong. By the way I took her to the side. I spoke in a calm respectful low voice and I made it a suggestion. But when she reacted by getting defensive inwardly I thought “go right ahead but you know we are going to talk about you and your ugly burnt, deformed feet. The point I’m making is there are basically three sides. The ones who will tell you to be assertive or because they care. The ones who wont say a word so you can make like a fool. And the ones you burnt the bridge with and they won’t tell you anymore. I told my son who is a young adult to be graceful when given advice and people will continue to do so. Another thing to do is buy a book on manners like I did because in the long run people aren’t going to tell you soon enough and it’s best to know for yourself. May I recommend “As a Lady Would Say, How To Be A Lady, a Lady at the Table” Sheryle Shade and one is by Candace Simpson. There are male counterparts too just search the same title but replace lady with gentleman. To the lady’s credit she Recanted. Good for her.

I now this is hard to believe but this means you are Better Than Them. But, with grat power comes great responsibility. So help people out like you wish people had helped you out. In the meantime, other socially conscious people will recognise what you’re doing and respect it. Friendships will be made. Have fun!

i feel for you. people suck

maybe they are just unaware. maybe they are shy. maybe don’t like confrontation. maybe they think you won’t listen.

Only when eating craw fish!

Anonymous wrote:
i feel for you. people suck