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Perhaps you misunderstood what he was saying. Is it someone you might think would care about how you feel? If so then there might be some miscommunication there.

Anyway you look at it, his comment was both stupid and insensitive.

Wonder how he’d feel if he were sent to prison and he got gang raped. Would he still say, “Hifi to them for getting away with it?”

Now, as to your own psyche–you are going to have to get counseling to get over your trauma. Right now you are looking at ALL men as potential rapists. This is one of the great crimes of the feminist movement–there were posters out in the military some years ago that said, in essence, that all men were potential rapists. Well, that was slanderous, feminist bulls**t. All men are no more potential rapists than all women are potential husband poisoners!

In case you missed it, there’s a lot of nasty women out there . . . women who murder, women who do other vile things. Do you want to be tarred with the same brush as those women? Would you want all guys to look at you as a potential poisoner or amputator of their male organs?

Seriously, you need to read about Joyce Meyer’s experience in her book, “Approval Addiction.” She was raped by her own father. Later, she got married and “took it out” on her perfectly innocent husband. She got therapy and she stopped abusing her husband. That’s right. She was abusing HIM for something her FATHER had done. She had a friend also molested by her father. But this friend refused to get help. She got married, abused her husband the same way Joyce had done, and didn’t think she had a problem. She lost her husband because he simply could not take constant abuse.

You shouldn’t have a boyfriend until you get over your fear and loathing of men. It’s not fair to you, and it’s not fair to them.

But as for this present boyfriend of yours, he is the worst you could possibly have. He is not a gentleman, and his intellect appears to be serious deficient. You will take the first step to recovery by dropping him, and the second step by making an appointment with a therapist.