friends help: I’m starting college in 4 days, and I’m scared out of my mind. - Help.com

While I’ve not done the dorm thing or had to deal with roommates I have been in college plenty of years now. One thing I can say without a doubt is that it’s really really easy to make friends in college. Everyone becomes really friendly and well, for the most part the highschool drama is a thing of the past. However the drama is very well more noticable in the freshman and sophomore years rather than the junior and senior years as people mature during those times.

I’m in Afghanistan right now. There are people who don’t like us and who shoot at us. They shoot rockets at us with 18 kg warheads. My teammate already got hit and was sent home.

We stay in little wooden huts and at night spiders and rats crawl over us.

I have already gotten food poisoning once from the food. One cook was with the Taliban and actually tried to poison us. He was caught before he could do much harm.

We get mail once a week, if we’re lucky. We have to Skype with our families–thank God for Skype!

We take showers with water so heavily chlorinated that we have to rinse off with bottled water, or let the chlorine eat up our skin.

At night, all the lights are turned off so the enemy cannot easily pinpoint our location. You develop night vision like a cat! We have to ride to the airport in armored vehicles. You see people around you with PTSD; one guy had it so bad that he kept wetting the bed.

We have to run into bunkers from time to time when the rockets start falling.

Now . . . what were you saying about being scared to go to college?

You’ll be fine. Humans are very adaptable creatures. If you will keep focused on your studies, everything else will fall into place. Your studies are the main thing–not fraternities, not parties, not socializing.

The point of all of this is that you’ve got a great opportunity in front of you, and you’ve got it really easily compared to the people defending you from out here! If we can do what we’re doing, you can go to college and make good grades, make friends, and get a worthwhile degree!

Good luck!

Honey you will cinch it. Go in there confident, friendly, and alert. You’ll click or you switch rooms. No problem. Just a coathanger? you got 4 days to get some sheets, another pillow, a blanket and some pajamas. Well, guess you can buy all that there when you figure out your space. Set your own boundaries though. Don’t follow them just anywhere ..:) too many pranks going on in colleges and the new people get plucked.

advice: buy more things for your dorm
reassurance: you’re gonna be in a dorm, you’ll meet a lot of people, enjoy great times, bond a lot, and have a thrill
Don’t worry. Trust me.