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Right, so in general, people have a lot of fears before they start college.

I have more than I ever thought possible. Basically, my boyfriend lives with me because he has nowhere else to go. His parents aren’t there for him, they kicked him out at the start of the summer and haven’t contacted him since. It’s not the first time they’ve done it, but it’s definitely the worst. Before it would last 3 weeks tops. It’s been over two months now. So, he has no money for college. He has a part time job, with good pay, but not NEARLY enough to get him through even the first month of college. Not even the fee’s. He’s fully entitled to a government student grant of about €4,000 but he needs his parents to supply information to prove he’s entitled to get one, and they’re not willing to help. If he got the grant, the €2,500 student contribution fee would be covered so he’d have money from the grant and less bills to pay off. Already, I have to worry about my own finances. I’m entitled to the grant too, and I’m after applying, but I’ll be applying for a student loan on top of that because I won’t be able to afford it otherwise. And on top of all this, I’ve gotten my place in college, but he hasn’t actually found out if he’s gotten his yet. What the hell DO I DO! I can’t go off to college without him, and it’s not just because I’ll miss him, it’s because he has nobody and nothing. He will have nowhere to go, nobody to turn to…he’s already far too depressed for someone his age and I’m terrified that if I leave, he’ll just give up. I wouldn’t really mind taking a year out, and letting him get sorted first, but it’s not as easy as that. The college I’m after being accepted into doesn’t allow deferrals to their courses, so If I don’t accept the course there’s no guarantee I’ll be accepted back into the course. If anything, I’m more likely not to be accepted next year. I’m honestly terrified. College starts in a month and I have no idea what to do. I’m sure he’ll get his place, so I don’t think that’s too much of a problem…but how the hell he’ll be able to afford moving away to college is beyond me. I don’t think there is a solution, but I guess I just don’t want to give up yet.

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Positivemessylove offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 8 minutes after post)

it sounds like you know what you have to do already, it just sounds like a lot of work. I hope he’s worth it :)

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (3 hours, 44 minutes after post)

have you talked to him about it?! what does HE think?!

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