boyfriend help: My boyfriend is always busy. - Help.com

Look, you are allowing these things to build up in you to the point where you boil over and complain and be irritable to other people

Instead of that, just talk about it first. Normally, calmly explain what you’d like and what bothers you. It doesn’t have to be a complaint, it could be an explanation of your feelings. Complaining is rarely helpful, but it is always good to talk about your feelings and what bothers you and what you hope for.
And when you do that, also try to be understanding and listen to him as well.

Break up with him.

You need to talk calmly about your problems, liek DarkSnow said, you both need to listen to the other, and try towrok past him. explain that spending time with him means a lot to you, and how going to see a film would make you smile. dont necessarily compair him to your ex, some guys get a bit titchy about that

Make yourself unavailable for a while. Tell him you’re really “busy.” If he doesn’t get his priorities straight after that, you need to seriously reevaluate your relationship!

Thanks, I’ve just turned off my phone now, he’s out at a games night with friends, (which i normally go to, but i was at a theme park today)
he didnt text me this morning, and only replied to my texts after about three hours of me waiting. Now he’s out im still having to wait ages for a reply. i get that he’s busy, but even if he just told me he’d talk later i’d be fine with that. He spends more time with my older male cousin, and more effort trying to talk to my cousin than he does with me. i know it’s petty that htat annoys me, but its really starting to get on my last nerve.

@ Hazel it sucks when we have to wait on our boyfriends to answer out texts. it happens to me too! But he usually works so he barely texts when he works if he does it privately. He used to always calls me guys r like that… and we just have to deal with it..

Anyways i threw a fit at him today because i didnt’ get to see him yesterday and today he promised to come by at 4 but now it is 7:30 and I threw a fit at him an hour ago and told him thats its not fair that i always have to wait on him. So now he knows how i feel/ It just to let him jnow that i will throw a fit if its happens all the time.

You should not need to throw fits to get things to happen. If you can’t talk about it and resolve it, there’s a greater problem here. And it will help you a lot if you can work through things without throwing fits and by being calm. Otherwise, the only time he will listen to you is when you throw a fit, instead of all of the time caring about you and trying to listen to you.

I have a same problem with my bf.

This is the situations, he call in sick today cuz he told me his stomach feels weird, but anywys he asked me if he can go here by my house and i thought he will come here to see me cuz i told him im not ready to go yet, but he said not its fine cuz he just goin to smoke.. He will come with me to go to medical . He just drove me to the clinic and telling me he cant be driving around cuz he dont want anybody to see him, when the time i called him to pick me up insaw his friends by passenger seat and i ended up siiting at the back, anyways i found out that hes gonna perform that night in a crowded place where his friend works. Its makes me feel bad to think that hes not afraid to perform there yet his afraid to come with me at the clinic. But i tried tounderstand that thats his dream, now he said he will come to my house before that event i’ve been waiting for long until i saw a msg saying he cant make it tonight cuz hes running out of time,. I talked to him bout it like how i wanted to spend a piece of his time before he go to the event. But he gets mad at me saying bout what did i expect im to do.. I just dont know how to tell him how i reall wanted to say and how he made me feel. Pls help.

I don’t quite understand the situation here n i don’t know why u r worrying so much…. I mean why not call him instead of texting? I mean maybe before he thought he might have time to come by ur house… But since he had to perform maybe he thought he better not in case he might run late. He drove u to the clinic n he said he doesn’t want anyone to see him… Maybe it was cuz he doesn’t want people to know he is performing that day or ask him about it… Since he has stage fright if I’m correct.. But anyways I don’t know why you are worrying so much much about him changing his mind cuz people do tht all the time…. Next time instead of confronting him you hold just simply ask him a question n say… Do you have time to spend with me before the event? Don’t be nervous n that I will always be there for you (depends on the guy cuz they may not want you to know they are nervous n try to hide it) or just ask him oh hat took you so long to respond to my message? We’re you busy? N they will respond… Guys are different if you say wht you want they will think you are demanding but if you ask in the form of a lauded ion they will think you are asking them a question n waiting for a response instead of questioning them… Anything else that bothering u? Please let me know

Ohk to make things clearer.. He called me in the morning telling about he didnt come to work cuz hes stomach feeling weird. So i said ok and he can come with me by the clinic, so he can see whats goin on to his stomach as well, but he refused to. So he said he coming to my house, i told him just come later knowing he wants to see me more early, and i told him im not ready yet, so he said no hes coming here because hes going to smoke,… So he drove me and dropped me to work and telling me about he cant be driving around cuz he dont want nobody see him because he call in sick,.and they know he was sick so he cant be on the road which is i understand. Now after i called him to pick me up i saw his friend by the pasenger seat, and they told me he going to perform on the crowd where hes friend working. Which is not a problem with me, infact i do supporting him in anything he wants. So they dropped me home and stay here for a little to finish theyre smoking and after they left.. He said hes gonna come before the event start, so i was waiting until he msgd me sayong he cant come again cuz hes running out of time.. Cuz hes at the barber and the barber taking too long.. So i got disappointed because when he know hes coming to my house before the event start then why he needs to go to the barber so late? I dont understand.. And he also said that he cant come after too cuz he dont know what time it gonna finished. I just felt like all of a sudden i felt left out.. He dont even msg me last night.. I dont know what to tell him to make him understand my feelings too.. Without getting him mad.