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My parents have been secretly confiscating my things and sneaking into my room…

AGAIN.
My father has just taken a plastic mat out of my room and washed it outside. Apparently it was dirty.
He didn’t tell me about it, though. I heard him and my mom muttering about it, so I went down to my room and it was gone. My dad was washing it outside.
I really hate him sometimes.
He has gone into my room without telling me before, like the time he read my journal, and the times my mom has gone to “inspect” my room to make sure that it isn’t messy or dirty. SO annoying.
When I saw that the mat was gone, something clicked in my head: it was this feeling of “I have to do something about this once and for all”. Then, I was overwhelmed with hopelessness, for what can I do about it? I still have just under 2 years until I can leave home, and no matter where I go, people nag me about cleaning up after myself. I don’t know how much longer I can stand it! Earlier today I already snapped at my mother because she was nagging me so badly about some black bean slop on the floor. It sounds really gross, but I swear that it was hardly anything. I had already cleaned most of it up earlier anyhow.
What can I do? Luckily now I have my journals locked up safe-and-sound, ever since my father read my old one. Unfortunately, however, I can not lock up my room quite so easily. I am only allowed a lock that locks from the inside, although my parents broke that one ages ago.
It is not as though my safety is at risk by having a mildly messy/dirty room. I am perfectly fine, at least with regards to my room. My parents just seem to be neat freaks.
Again, does anyone have any suggestions?

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..Minerva.. offline Verified User (3 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 32 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

Perhaps not the answer you are looking for, but until you move out, make an effort to be cleaner. As close to their standard of clean as you can get. I know, sh*t answer, but really there’s no other solution. If you want them out of your room give them no reason to want to look in there.

My mum is incredibly nitpicky about mess, and I have tried every other which way to convince her my untidiness isn’t that bad. Until I found out that by cleaning up more to her standard, the complaints stopped, she ceased going into my room when I wasn’t around, and we get along fine. It goes against every rebellious fibre in my being to comply but it makes life a lot easier.

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 29 minutes after post)

Unfortunately I went through this when I lived with my guardians but at least they’re not easily aggravated pissheads, my aunt would come in my room at 1AM smashed and start going through the clothes in my room on my floor and start throwing them in the hallway and moaning at me she wouldn’t stop until I had to beg my Uncle to tell her to stop because all I wanted to do was sleep. She also read my diary and had good reason to at the time because I was out of control. The only thing you can do is be one step ahead of the game and just try to be a big neater and a bit cleaner.

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