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This Guy is Confusing?

We used to sit in the same group together at lunch for a few months.
Throughout all this, he had been mean to me and making fun of me for things. He wouldn’t really do this to anyone else, He would just say something mean everytime we talked.
But also, before, when we used to see each other in class or around school everyday he’d always be around and near me and talk to only me when we were talking in a group. He would be on my side or defend me in certain situations, then the next day he’d go back to being mean again.
He sat behind me in class, and if he had something to say to me, he’d poke me in the back/shoulder until I’d turn around, and he’d also do that in alot of other situations. Then at other times, he’d pat me on the back, stand near me, grab me and guide me out of the way if someone was walking towards me and I didn’t see, or push me around… and sometimes it would seem mean too but I don’t know. Basically he’d always be around me and near me.. He would be nice at times but always seem mean at the same time.

Does he hate me or what?

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The Sherlockian 39 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

Boyish immaturity!

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

hes just being a boy.

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crystalsandsand 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 25 minutes after post)

I have no idea what he means by it.
But well if you’re kinda stuck around him anyway I suggest just take him as he comes.
Ignore things he says when he’s being rude and try not to take them to heart or think about it too deeply. When he’s being friendly enjoy it but don’t treat him like someone you can rely on. And don’t trust him with secret or personal stuff until you have an idea where you stand.

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This Guy is Confusing?

We used to sit in the same group together at lunch for a few months.
Throughout all this, he had been mean to me and making fun of me for things. He wouldn’t really do this to anyone else, He would just say something mean everytime we talked.
But also, before, when we used to see each other in class or around school everyday he’d always be around and near me and talk to only me when we were talking in a group. He would be on my side or defend me in certain situations, then the next day he’d go back to being mean again.
He sat behind me in class, and if he had something to say to me, he’d poke me in the back/shoulder until I’d turn around, and he’d also do that in alot of other situations. Then at other times, he’d pat me on the back, stand near me, grab me and guide me out of the way if someone was walking towards me and I didn’t see, or push me around… and sometimes it would seem mean too but I don’t know. He would be nice at times but always seem mean at the same time.
He would call me skinny and say other stuff about me to me..and also he’d trust me and tell me about the girl he liked,etc.
Is he my friend or is he just mean?

seasonsoflove7 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 51 minutes after post)

He likes you but he is insecure about it. There’s always that little inkling of fear of rejection that keeps guys in middle or high school from acting on a crush. It’s easier to be a jerk that to come out and be honest becuase they don’t have to own up to the idea of you saying no. Maybe he doesn’t even know if he likes you or not and is conflicted and that’s why he’s so back and forth. Ignore him.
If you are the same person that made that other post recently about the same thing and how he “admired your eyes” then I think you might just like this person. Talk to him and get to know him, help him out.

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Siren 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 51 minutes after post)

he probably likes you, treat em mean keep em kean, i dont know where guys learn it from so early….

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Shzylo 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 9 minutes after post)

Guys are immature (I should know im a guy) most likely he’s just being an immature guy or he does like you ;)
Guys are just confusing sometimes ._. I even confuse myself…

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Anonymous #
9 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 34 minutes after post)

unnaturallife wrote:
Guys are immature (I should know im a guy) most likely he’s just being an immature guy or he does like you ;)
Guys are just confusing sometimes ._. I even confuse myself…

Yeah I guess that’s right.its more confusing cause he would tell me about girls he likes.. So is that normal?

Anonymous #
9 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 54 minutes after post)

The Sherlockian wrote:
Boyish immaturity!

Alright. Does that mean he hates me or is that his way of being friendly

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seasonsoflove7 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (3 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:

unnaturallife wrote:
Guys are immature (I should know im a guy) most likely he’s just being an immature guy or he does like you ;)
Guys are just confusing sometimes ._. I even confuse myself…

Yeah I guess that’s right.its more confusing cause he would tell me about girls he likes.. So is that normal?

He’s probably trying to keep you on your toes. See how you react to him asking. Or sometimes he really likes that girl and doesn’t see anything wrong about talking about those things with you.

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Shzylo 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (14 hours, 34 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:

unnaturallife wrote:
Guys are immature (I should know im a guy) most likely he’s just being an immature guy or he does like you ;)
Guys are just confusing sometimes ._. I even confuse myself…

Yeah I guess that’s right.its more confusing cause he would tell me about girls he likes.. So is that normal?

I’m not really sure, not all guys are the same. From what I know none of my friends do that.

If he does like you, he’s probably trying to make sure you think he’s not interested in you.

I’m not sure if I am correct. Some guys are more immature than others.

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