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How to get friends back?

I moved to a different school in March. I had few friends at my old school, but we only saw each other during school, never outside of school. Well I want to actually be friends with these people and actually see them outside of school and such, but I am extremely shy. Since it is August now, I haven’t even talked to them once since then. I don’t have their phone numbers, but they are on Facebook. I don’t know what to do should I just message them on Facebook and say hi? I’m really shy. I’m tired of being lonely, but I am really scared to talk to people. What should I do?

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

For the first time you better contact them PERSONALLY, face-to-face, and not over Facebook.
 
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Next steps:
 
“How to Lose Shyness and Social Anxiety - 3 Main Tips to a Better Social Life”:
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“How To Lose Your Shyness Step By Step”:
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“How To Overcome Shyness When Meeting People”:
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“How to Make Friends”:
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“How to keep friendship?”:
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Gex_Gecko offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

Yeah, the only thing is, I would have to contact them in order to see them in person as I don’t go to that school anymore or know where their houses are. Thanks for the links though.

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Max offline Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 42 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 12 minutes after post)

Face book them and maybe invite them to an event on the weekend. Like a car show or outdoor event. Keep in touch with them…it’s healthy:)

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Pavan offline Verified User (4 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (4 hours, 42 minutes after post)

throw a house party :)

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matty.matsagour offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (3 days, 7 hours after post)

You need to ask yourself-were you really great enough friends with these people that you were comfortable with them? Or do you just feel lonely, and since perhaps you felt too shy to really get to know anyone at your own school, went back to the possibility that they might be good friends to have? I hope this has helped to question your situation. The way it seems to me, these people weren’t amazing friends with you even when you where still at their school. Maybe you should focus on your new school, try and find someone who doesnt mind your being shy, and they perhaps will be able to help you overcome your shyness. xoxo

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