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Boy help please?
Hi! Well, I’m 19, female, never had a boyfriend and am totally useless at reading body language and guys in general. So, there are 2 situations I would like to know about:
1. I was at a train station yesterday and a young (not totally bad-looking…) guy kept looking at me, and then would walk past me really close, and stood right next to me, even though I stood in a corner further away from other people (it was a crowded station). I mean, he could have stood at least a metre away from me, but no, it HAD to be right next to me. I’d thought nothing of the walking past me thing, but that made me unsure.
It DID cross my mind that he could be a pickpocket - but he was very well-dressed in a suit, well-groomed. I still kept my bag close to me though. Nothing is missing and he never went near my bag, so I came to the conclusion that he wasn’t actually a pickpocket, but just wanted to stand close to me.
Anyhow, then we got on the train, and I deliberately sat behind him, but I was kind of diagonally across from him. On the train ride, he kept on looking out the window, and then I looked up several times and he was looking at me AGAIN, but would then avert his gaze whenever I looked up.
So my question is (and you’ve probably guessed it by now…), what does that mean? I’m asking only because I feel like I looked quite average, and I was tired and un-made-up, and my hair wasn’t straightened or anything.
2. there’s a guy I DO know at college, and I somehow simultaneously get the vibe that a) he doesn’t like me, b) he’s shy of me, and c) he finds me very attractive and/or he’s attracted to me. He’s older than me, about 27 I think, and I met him while he was teaching a class (he’s a PhD student, and I’m guessing he eventually wants to be a professor). And whenever he sees me in the hallways he says hi (like any normal person), but he also keeps watching me, and looking at me while he’s talking with other people.
Um, so, same question as before. What do you think?
I apologize for being totally lame and weird. I have zero experience, which also makes me totally pathetic. I guess I’ve always had low self-esteem, so I’m just sort of curious to know what’s going on here…
So thanks folks :)
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