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He’s a young professional, I’m a student, who’s in debt.

I feel like our relationship is never going to work. I still have 2 years of school left and he’s looking to buy a condo. He is extremely generous, which makes me feel guilty because I can only sometimes return the generosity. I also feel guilty because I think that I’m holding him back from his life (he should find someone who is ready to settle down and has their life together). I really like him, I don’t want to even think about ending it, but am I being selfish if I stay in this relationship?

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AdamG offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

Follow your heart. Money has nothing to do with love… nor does school.

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

You can be generous after you graduate. Lots of men help women through school. Hell lots of men support women their whole lives… my wife is 48 and has never worked. Went straight from daddy to me paying for everything and buying her cars etc…. it used to be the norm.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

How are you being selfish? If he is in the relationship with you, as in he chose you, and is not complaining or feeling resentful of you then why panic? Try to relax and just move along with the relationship, if it feels good then most likely it is.

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9 months, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

You need to discuss this stuff with him and see how he feels that is the only way you will know and get some closure.

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