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Y’know, it’s ok NOT to be ok with this :/
You can give her a chance to mull things over if you really like her. There may be more to this than you’re telling us. But why is there anything to think about? It’s because she’s not ready. Relationships that are started half-heartedly like this are likely to go wrong and quite honestly, this would annoy the Hell outta me!
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the_tree_has_withere wrote:
Y’know, it’s ok NOT to be ok with this :/
You can give her a chance to mull things over if you really like her. There may be more to this than you’re telling us. But why is there anything to think about? It’s because she’s not ready. Relationships that are started half-heartedly like this are likely to go wrong and quite honestly, this would annoy the Hell outta me!
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So what do i do? Its annoying- she cares about me and certainly shows it when shes with me, but shes very bipolar…I don’t know…Ive given this relationship so much effort, and when i asked for effort and time on her part, this is what she hits me with.
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and you will be hit with this alll the time from her, she does not know what she wants, she likes your attention but she is not committed to loving you and you only - you deserve better, and someone stable in their mind … she will only use you and make you bitter to the next woman you meet, don’t let that happen…
Either:
1) Draw her back, overcome her insecurities, and resolve it now before it becomes an issue.
Or,
2) Let her go and don’t take her back if she is that easily influenced.
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One of the keys to being in a healthy relationship is communication. Instead of trying to beat her to the punch, respect her wishes. When she has collected herself, talk (I mean literally sit down and DICUSS the issue) things through. If you care about her and youre capable of understanding what she’s going though, this choice should be easy. Stop being such a coward and let her explain her feelings to you with a clear mind.
No one on here knows the basis of your relationship, so don’t take people’s assumtions to heart. Most people are telling you to jump the gun, but if she actaully means something to you, you’ll get through this together. If it’s early in the relationship, perhaps it’s better to discuss where this is going and where her heart lies.
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weewa wrote:
One of the keys to being in a healthy relationship is communication. Instead of trying to beat her to the punch, respect her wishes. When she has collected herself, talk (I mean literally sit down and DICUSS the issue) things through. If you care about her and youre capable of understanding what she’s going though, this choice should be easy. Stop being such a coward and let her explain her feelings to you with a clear mind.
No one on here knows the basis of your relationship, so don’t take people’s assumtions to heart. Most people are telling you to jump the gun, but if she actaully means something to you, you’ll get through this together. If it’s early in the relationship, perhaps it’s better to discuss where this is going and where her heart lies.
I’m not jumping the gun. I really care about her, but I don’t know its so hard not to talk to her, its been a day since she said she wanted space and im basically going insane.
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Sorry for the misunderstanding, when you said “let her go” I assumed you meant “break up with her”. Many apologies!
Everyone has baggage, has a past. The difference is in how we deal with it in the present and future. I know it may be difficult for you Idkanymor, but what’s occuring for her emotionally is a personal thing. At least that is the way she has expressed it by saying she wants ’space’. Have patience, whatever conclusion she comes to is her own and you should respect that. When people are THAT emotional, they arn’t able to make proper decisions because they are ruled by what ever they are feeling.
Again, wait a day or two and then make attempts to contact her and ask if she’s alright to talk about it. Express to her you want to hear how she’s feeling but only when she is ready.
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You shouldnt even exept this. how can she not even care about him but need time to think weither she wants yyou or him. i auggest u tell her to be more direct with her. Tell her you like her or love whichever suits your relationship and tell her that she must decide because you will not wait forever.
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You shouldnt even exept this. how can she not even care about him but need time to think weither she wants yyou or him. i auggest u tell her to be more direct with her. Tell her you like her or love whichever suits your relationship and tell her that she must decide because you will not wait forever.
I told her i loved her yesterday, and i cared about her and she kept crying saying i know i do too…..so i just thought id just let her get her space which is funny, because she just put up a pic on facebook of her drinkin and partying….so i have no clue what to think anymore.
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Same problem, different post.
Yes, you are about to be dumped. Your soon-to-be-ex-girlfriend is still carrying a torch for her ex. You will lose. She is putting on this big emotional display to make it look like she is torn between the two of you. But she has already made her decision.
In your place, I’d send her one last text or make one last phone call: “Sweetheart, I know that you said that you needed some space after your ex came back into your life. Well, as we both know, he didn’t just come back into your life. You welcomed him back into your life with open arms. So, I just want you to know that you can have all the space you want, because at the very moment you took him back into your life, you ceased to be my girlfriend. So, goodbye, Sweetheart, and have the time of your life with your ex.”
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