girl help: If a guy cheated on another girl he dated, does this necessariliy mean he’d do it again. - Help.com

I think the once a cheater always a cheater seems to be true if it is an adult. If a person is a teenager when they cheated, they can change by the time they are an adult.

It depends.
If he was in a serious relationship with that girl then he might think cheating is not a big deal as long as you aren’t caught and might do it again. If they were only causally dating than he might have thought that he had no obligations towards her anyway.
Be careful, you might not be on the same page about what is cheating and what is not.

I’m not sure as it depends on the people and the situation. Someone once said, “The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.”

He tells me all of the time I’m the only one for him he’d never do that. But it’s just he did it to someone else, why wouldn’t he do it to me?

babacup makes a good point. depends on the age. sometimes you have to make a mistake in order to learn

wil wrote:
babacup makes a good point. depends on the age. sometimes you have to make a mistake in order to learn

I mean I guess that’s true, but still I know I shouldn’t compare him to myself but even when I was younger I could have never done that to anyone. And it’s the one thing in a relationship that I would never ever think twice about leaving him for.

And yeah I’m assuming this happened when he was in high school because he’s only 22 now and we’ve been together since he was 20 so it was when he was still a teen but still. I don’t know.

I seem to believe that once he cheats he will probably always do it.
If you do it once, why not do it again? They obviously thought there was nothing wrong with it the first time…. why not do it again

how old this guy? and how old was he when he cheated on someone else?

Anonymous wrote:
He tells me all of the time I’m the only one for him he’d never do that. But it’s just he did it to someone else, why wouldn’t he do it to me?

I sent it but it hasn’t gone through so I’ll try again.

He’s 22 now. I don’t know how old he was when it happened, hes at work and we haven’t had a chance to discuss it.
We’ve been together since he was 20 so it was sometime when he was a teen.

I personally believe that when someone cheats they cross a line and betray your trust, would they do it again? Who knows, maybe it would be naive to assume they wouldn’t because once they get a taste for it they might want to do it again. I’m sorry about your bf btw.

YES. We are creatures of habit. Judge others on their past behaviors and you will be way ahead of the game.

trentlover20 wrote:
I personally believe that when someone cheats they cross a line and betray your trust, would they do it again? Who knows, maybe it would be naive to assume they wouldn’t because once they get a taste for it they might want to do it again. I’m sorry about your bf btw.

I feel like it’s wrong for me just to assume that he would. But he did it once. I can’t rule out that he never would again.
And that’s the toughest thing for me trusting he wouldn’t do that to me. Because I don’t trust easily at all. And I’m trying so hard to but things like this I find out and I don’t know anymore.

You have been with him a while now, how does he treat you? Does he treat you with resect? Does he respect women in general? Doe he He ever lie to you? I think you need to look at the big picture of who he is and not base it on this one action that took place when he was a teen. Talk to him about it. See how you feel once he explains it too you. Does he feel regretful he hurt someone, does he think it was wrong what he did? There is a lotto look at here before labeling him ” once a cheater always a cheater”.

Let me add he did not cheat on you. That would be a different story.

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trentlover20 wrote:
I personally believe that when someone cheats they cross a line and betray your trust, would they do it again? Who knows, maybe it would be naive to assume they wouldn’t because once they get a taste for it they might want to do it again. I’m sorry about your bf btw.

I feel like it’s wrong for me just to assume that he would. But he did it once. I can’t rule out that he never would again.
And that’s the toughest thing for me trusting he wouldn’t do that to me. Because I don’t trust easily at all. And I’m trying so hard to but things like this I find out and I don’t know anymore.

Even if he hadn’t cheated on someone before you, realistically you still couldn’t rule out the possibility that he’ll cheat on you. People go through happy trusting relationships, buy a house, have kids, only to get a divorce when someone cheats.
I’d talk to him about it to iron out the issue. He can explain to you the situation which might help you ease up on it.
I wouldn’t get to caught up on it.