relationship help: What would you consider to be something worth ending a friendship/relationship over? - Help.com

All of the above, depending on the context in which each one occurred.

I would have to experience the circumstances of each one and use my own judgment to determine if the person is worth keeping around anymore. Also, I’d take into account how long the friendship has been established. Naturally, it would take it would be harder for me to end a long-standing friendship.

pearlbone wrote:
Okay, so cheating, stealing, and lying in other situations that are not relevant to you, as a person, and were not attacks against you. But, just a large default in their way of thinking. Or, their lack of morals, but again does not have anything to do with you.

Even if the act had nothing to do with me, I wouldn’t want that kind of energy around me. There is a huge possibility that they are likely to do it again, maybe to me, maybe not. I’d rather be around someone I could trust in and admire.

You have to surround yourself with people you can trust. Without trust, there can be no real love or friendship. If trust is broken by lying, cheaing or stealing, the love or friendship cannot be sustained.

It’s also about controlling your environment. You cannot have people around you who are undermining you by their lies, cheating or stealing. You have to get these people out of your immediate vicinity so you can focus on tasks and goals. You cannot focus if you have to watch your back all the time!

The lying is what i’d have real trouble with, all tho i’d be all right with a white lie here and there(we all do it). The cheating, if done in say…a work or school test/exam i would think no big deal. Cheating on past significan others however, as a friend i wouldn’t mind so much yet in a relationship i definetly would. Stealing, if it was small(and stupid) stuff like a pen from the bank or something again, no big deal. If they’re shoving crap up their skirts and walking out from stores like that or if they’re stealing from their family/people whom they’re supposedly closest to, i would keep my distance in any circumstance.

To be entirely honest with you if someone way lying to others, or cheating on others and betraying their trust i would seriously evaluate whether i want to be their friend/ girlfriend. The truth is for me honesty and loyalty are really important and if someone is not honest with others what are the chances they are honest with me? or what are the chances that they won’t betray me next?
If it’s a one time thing i would most probably think it over and see what made them do what they did but if it’s part of their personality then i’m afraid i wouldn’t be able to have any kind of relationship withthem.

for me in a relationship, the bar is high. and it’s not necessarily actions, but attitudes, that matter.

i would leave a man if he didn’t respect me, didn’t trust me, didn’t respect my parents, didn’t communicate with me, didn’t keep his promises, didn’t listen to me. i would leave him if he ignored me, if he kept secrets from me, if he wouldn’t defend my honor, if he dismissed me, didn’t respect my personal space, wouldn’t try to understand my point of view, or wouldn’t talk to me when there’s a problem in the relationship. i would leave a man for being passive aggressive, for being underhanded and sneaky, for being petty and selfish, for being a spoiled brat, for taking me for granted, for not appreciating how much i loved him. i would leave a man for pressuring me to do something i thought was wrong, for laughing at my beliefs, for thinking i am inferior to him. i would leave a man if he brought me down more than he lifted me up. i would leave a man who would flake and abandon me in a time of need. i would leave a man who could never admit he was wrong, and never apologize.

if you maintain a high standard for the people around you, you surround yourself with positive influences, and you set a basis for the kind of person you want to be. if you stay with a disrespectful man, you will get a disrespectful relationship. if you keep bad company, you will be another part of a bad crowd.

Lying, cheating, abusing you, trying to control you, trying to turn you into some little housewife while he goes out clubbing with his mates and chats up girls, if he was on drugs or was an alcoholic if he had severe mental problems the list goes on lol at the end of the day you should only be with someone who makes you happy and secure if they don’t then leave them.