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I like this boy but i dont really know him and he doesn’t know me. I wanted to change that so I went to his work and gave him my number. he texted me a few days later and asked questions about me. i answered some of them, but then I said if he wants to know he’ll just have to hang out with me. he said he wants me to tell him about myself so he can decide if he wants to hang out with me or not (i’m not sure if he was being serious about that or kidding). I said I would rather get to know someone in person than through text messages. He said that it’s easier to get to know someone in person if you already know a few things about him. I didn’t say anything after that, and I have been waiting for him to text me today. So i’m not sure if this boy likes me or is just messing with me. Maybe he’s keeping me on the back burner until someone better comes along? Am I reading too much into this? I know I sound like a stupid teenage girl, but I really like this boy and I think we could be in a relationship. I have had a bad history with relationships so I don’t want to waste anymore time with boys who play games. Any advice on what to do? Also, I’m not sure if this matters or not but he has graduated from high school and I haven’t yet. Would that be a reason that he doesn’t want to hang out with me? I’m really not sure how to act in this situation. I don’t want to tell him everything through text messages! Help!?

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Anonymous edited this post 9 months, 1 week ago. Read the previous text »

boy problems…
I like this boy but i dont really know him and he doesn’t know me. I wanted to change that so I went to his work and gave him my number. he texted me and asked questions about me. i answered some of them, but then I said if he wants to know he’ll just have to hang out with me. he said he wants me to tell him about myself so he can decide if he wants to hang out with me or not (i’m not sure if he was being serious about that or kidding). I said I would rather get to know someone in person than through text messages. He said that it’s easier to get to know someone in person if you already know a few things about him. I didn;t say anything after that, and I have been waiting for him to text me today. So i’m not sure if this boy likes me or is just meesing with me. Maybe he’s keeping me on the back burner until someone better comes along? Am I reading too much into this? I know I sound like a stupid teenage girl, but I really like this boy and i think we could be in a relationship. I have had a bad history with relationships so I don’t want to waste anymore time with boys who play games. Any advice on what to do? Also, I’m not sure if this matters or not but he has graduated from high school and I haven’t yet. Would that be a reason that he doesn’t want to hang out with me? I’m really not sure how to act in this situation. I don’t want to tell him everything through text messages! Help?

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boy problems…
I like this boy but i dont really know him and he doesn’t know me. I wanted to change that so I went to his work and gave him my number. he texted me a few days later and asked questions about me. i answered some of them, but then I said if he wants to know he’ll just have to hang out with me. he said he wants me to tell him about myself so he can decide if he wants to hang out with me or not (i’m not sure if he was being serious about that or kidding). I said I would rather get to know someone in person than through text messages. He said that it’s easier to get to know someone in person if you already know a few things about him. I didn;t say anything after that, and I have been waiting for him to text me today. So i’m not sure if this boy likes me or is just meesing with me. Maybe he’s keeping me on the back burner until someone better comes along? Am I reading too much into this? I know I sound like a stupid teenage girl, but I really like this boy and i think we could be in a relationship. I have had a bad history with relationships so I don’t want to waste anymore time with boys who play games. Any advice on what to do? Also, I’m not sure if this matters or not but he has graduated from high school and I haven’t yet. Would that be a reason that he doesn’t want to hang out with me? I’m really not sure how to act in this situation. I don’t want to tell him everything through text messages! Help?

Anonymous edited this post 9 months, 1 week ago. Read the previous text »

boy problems…
I like this boy but i dont really know him and he doesn’t know me. I wanted to change that so I went to his work and gave him my number. he texted me a few days later and asked questions about me. i answered some of them, but then I said if he wants to know he’ll just have to hang out with me. he said he wants me to tell him about myself so he can decide if he wants to hang out with me or not (i’m not sure if he was being serious about that or kidding). I said I would rather get to know someone in person than through text messages. He said that it’s easier to get to know someone in person if you already know a few things about him. I didn’t say anything after that, and I have been waiting for him to text me today. So i’m not sure if this boy likes me or is just meesing with me. Maybe he’s keeping me on the back burner until someone better comes along? Am I reading too much into this? I know I sound like a stupid teenage girl, but I really like this boy and i think we could be in a relationship. I have had a bad history with relationships so I don’t want to waste anymore time with boys who play games. Any advice on what to do? Also, I’m not sure if this matters or not but he has graduated from high school and I haven’t yet. Would that be a reason that he doesn’t want to hang out with me? I’m really not sure how to act in this situation. I don’t want to tell him everything through text messages! Help?

Anonymous edited this post 9 months, 1 week ago. Read the previous text »

boy problems…
I like this boy but i dont really know him and he doesn’t know me. I wanted to change that so I went to his work and gave him my number. he texted me a few days later and asked questions about me. i answered some of them, but then I said if he wants to know he’ll just have to hang out with me. he said he wants me to tell him about myself so he can decide if he wants to hang out with me or not (i’m not sure if he was being serious about that or kidding). I said I would rather get to know someone in person than through text messages. He said that it’s easier to get to know someone in person if you already know a few things about him. I didn’t say anything after that, and I have been waiting for him to text me today. So i’m not sure if this boy likes me or is just meesing with me. Maybe he’s keeping me on the back burner until someone better comes along? Am I reading too much into this? I know I sound like a stupid teenage girl, but I really like this boy and I think we could be in a relationship. I have had a bad history with relationships so I don’t want to waste anymore time with boys who play games. Any advice on what to do? Also, I’m not sure if this matters or not but he has graduated from high school and I haven’t yet. Would that be a reason that he doesn’t want to hang out with me? I’m really not sure how to act in this situation. I don’t want to tell him everything through text messages! Help?

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (55 minutes after post)

Establish where you will draw the line.
If he doesn’t know you, I’m assuming you don’t know him either. You have no idea who he is. If you have no idea who he is then I can only assume that your feelings for him are superficial and therefore unsubstantial.
If your feelings for him are unsubstantial (at least at this point in time), then don’t waste time on they guy you ‘think he is’. Chances are he’s not that person.
Establish were the line is. Personally I would say, “It’s easy, instead of texting me these questions, you just ask me them in person”. Join me for date> at time>”. If he persists then don’t text him back. Not worth your time and effort.

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9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

You’re right, i don’t know him but I know a lot about him through mutual friends. I don’t think my feelings are superficial. I know we have a lot in common and many of the same intrests, and talking to him proved it. I guess I have an idea of who he is, but I want to find out who he really is even if thats not who I thought he was. I don’t want to ask him on a date because I gave him my number and I feel like I’m initiating too much. I think he should be the one to ask me out, if he likes me.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 47 minutes after post)

I’d take his word for it. If he doesn’t know you at all, it makes sense that he’d like to learn a few things about you before hanging out. So tell him a few things.

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help?
I like this boy but i dont really know him and he doesn’t know me. I wanted to change that so I went to his work and gave him my number. he texted me a few days later and asked questions about me. i answered some of them, but then I said if he wants to know he’ll just have to hang out with me. he said he wants me to tell him about myself so he can decide if he wants to hang out with me or not (i’m not sure if he was being serious about that or kidding). I said I would rather get to know someone in person than through text messages. He said that it’s easier to get to know someone in person if you already know a few things about him. I didn’t say anything after that, and I have been waiting for him to text me today. So i’m not sure if this boy likes me or is just meesing with me. Maybe he’s keeping me on the back burner until someone better comes along? Am I reading too much into this? I know I sound like a stupid teenage girl, but I really like this boy and I think we could be in a relationship. I have had a bad history with relationships so I don’t want to waste anymore time with boys who play games. Any advice on what to do? Also, I’m not sure if this matters or not but he has graduated from high school and I haven’t yet. Would that be a reason that he doesn’t want to hang out with me? I’m really not sure how to act in this situation. I don’t want to tell him everything through text messages! Help!?

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 58 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
You’re right, i don’t know him but I know a lot about him through mutual friends. I don’t think my feelings are superficial. I know we have a lot in common and many of the same intrests, and talking to him proved it. I guess I have an idea of who he is, but I want to find out who he really is even if thats not who I thought he was. I don’t want to ask him on a date because I gave him my number and I feel like I’m initiating too much. I think he should be the one to ask me out, if he likes me.

I think you’re right, to a degree. If you’ve initiated the number swap, he should be meeting you half way. However, because you’ve taken the first step then he’ll expect you to ask him out. Give him a time and a place, nothing wrong with that.
If he still manages to come up with excuses then leave it.

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