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I don’t know who I am

I have a huge problem (I find it huge) and as far as I know I’ve had it my whole life, and that is that i don’t know who I am (or at least I think that is the problem).
When people ask me “who are you?” I can’t answer them. “Okay, what are you good at?” And I can’t answer that question either.
The real problem though is that I don’t know my own thoughts, and that annoys me. People say that you think every second of the day, well I don’t know that I’m thinking or what I’m thinking, and now as I write this I am probably thinking while writing but I can’t find the thoughts, I just write.
I just finished school this summer. While I was in school I never really talked to anyone, I just shut everyone out (the only thing that I know I’m good at btw), I did that by closing my ears so that I didn’t hear them, but it wasn’t on purpose I did it automaticly. It’s not that I did it all the time, I have lots of friends and I’m outgoing (which I didn’t know my self, I’ve just heard people say it to me), but it annoys me that I do it.

Is there anyone who is familiar with this, or know something, I feel so stupid and empty inside.
It’s like I’m a box, I have a body but there is nothing inside.

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Positivemessylove offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

I think you overthink things. Maybe that’s who you are.
Who you are is defined in different ways, ways that you control. Your actions, words, emotions, etc. Also, at the base of it none of those things define you because you are a soul, just like the rest of us, who have different emotions and thoughts than you.

I think in order to find yourself, you have to stop trying to answer others, and just live your life.

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10 months, 1 week ago (37 minutes after post)

Don’t try to define who you are, if you do then you will become harder to change, people that struggle the most are people that hang on to the past and resist new experiances and carry such a big story about who they are, enjoy being alive and people will enjoy being around you.

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perceptor. offline Verified User (3 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (44 minutes after post)

Be what you are - no one can take that from you.
What are you? - you should define that.
It is ok to define that you are a dynamic person - I see nothing wrong with that.

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♥ Fairytale ♥ offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (7 hours, 33 minutes after post)
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