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Who do you think you are, why do you think you aren’t that person, and who do you think you are becoming?

Do you think there’s a chance you are still you, your just a different version of you? Like how I act differently when I’m angry, or bored, or out going or with certain people.

Hello. I’m sorry you feel that way. Why have you been feeling like you’ve been living another person’s life? Your life is usually has some sort of impact on who you are and vice versa, so why you don’t feel like your life is your own could be very important.

What attributes/characteristics do you think define people?

Connercumming wrote:
Because I just don’t feel like the life I’m living is the real me.

If you really think that, you must have some idea of who you are.

Connercumming wrote:
When I look in the mirror and talk I say ” that isn’t me ?!”

Change this. Avoid conversations with yourself in the mirror. Stop thinking “I’m not me.” And start living life the way you think you should! Instead of observing the fact you aren’t ‘yourself’, start being who you think you are!

Connercumming wrote:
I try but I have a anxiety disorder

I have noticed that a lot of people with anxiety disorders kind of use it as an excuse to cover up their faults.
“Oh I can’t be who I am because I have so much anxiety that I hide who I truly am! I’m too afraid to be me!”
And I use to be like that. But anxiety isn’t stopping you, you are stopping yourself by not having control of it. In the words of the Smiths, “Shyness is nice, and shyness can stop you from doing all the things in life you want to.” Well, I think that anxiety is something you can overcome and it takes a step by step dedication. It isn’t something instant, not that I’ve ever heard of anyway.
Also, you will probably never overcome it if you never accept the fact that who you are is that person. maybe its not the most desired part of you, but it is a part of who you are. you need to accept yourself for who you are in order to change it.

:)
Good luck on your journey.

You can’t pretend to be someone you’re not. Some people are pretenders. Some people are dreamers, who only dream about the person they are/want to be. Some people are thinkers, there are impractical thinkers who think too much about questions they’ll never know the answer to, or practical thinkers who focus on questions they can answer.
If you think about it like that, it’s impossible to be someone you’re not.
How we act is the most consistent thing we have to measure ourselves by, not how we think.
Most likely, what you see in your head isn’t who you really are, it’s who you want to be.
So now it’s up to you to act, make a decision, do you want to be a pretender or a dreamer? Or someone else?
Characters are flexible things, you can become anyone you want to within reasonable grounds.

Sending you Cyber Hugs for comfort

sometime i feel same you but don’t fantasize. try to entertain yourself not to think about this stuff.